Too much sex??? Male insight would be especially appreciated

LegacyUser

I've been with my boyfriend a few months now. I love him to bits and think he's fantastic. He seems to feel the same and I suppose things are great between us.

We both live in shared houses so spend alot of time in our bedrooms just to get some privacy. We would see each other 6 - 7 nights a week and probably go out for drinks/dinner one night and maybe the cinema another night. So most weeks that's 4-5 nights where we're just chilling in our bedrooms. We do talk about our days for a bit but not long really and we always end up having sex.

I suppose I'm worried because while I am fairly attractive I sometimes feel that the personality doesn't match. I'm quite serious and I'd like to be funnier/wittier. I'm a bit concerned that he's twigged this and is getting bored of me , therefore would just prefer to be having sex with me than talking to me??

Anyone have any insights on this?

kmart6

Sorry but if your spending that much time in a bedroom what else can you expect!!! If you want to have proper intellectual conversations get out of the bedroom to the living room or kitchen!!!

LegacyUser

Hi OP firstly I agree with reply above, what do you expect hanging round in the bedroom!

second he's obviously not bored if he's spending six or seven (!) nights a week with you, maybe if you think there's some small problem then that could be it rather than him getting bored with you. he might need a bit more time to himself!

I wouldn't worry about it though, the first few months are meant to be the honeymoon period.... enjoy!!

Otis Driftwood

If I was bored with a girl I sure as hell wouldnt be spending every night of the week with her,sex or no sex.

Rb

New couples hump like rabbits.

Don't worry about it, just keep doing non-sexual stuff too and everything is fine.

Besides, it's good exercise.

weemcd

6-7 nights a week is simply overkill, cant be healthy spending that much time together, of course you are going to run out of things to talk about.

conversation would almost certainly be easier if you had time apart once and a while

Faith

It's a new relationship, that's typically how they go. After a while things settle down and sex tends happen less frequently that during the crazy passionate first few months. My advice is just to enjoy yourself! Also, like others have said, get out of the bedroom more if it's not something you're happy with.

Joey the lips

You dont say how long your together but tbh just go along with it, Whats worrying going to do about it.

Enjoy the ride(Pardon the pun)

Try get out a bit though now that summer is here long walks are great. We used to have long walks, Actually I might sound like an alco but I use to make vodka shots in coke bottles and go for long walks, They were brilliant, Sometimes we talked crap and walked the drink off us!

We are still together! You catch my drift just get out it can be done cheaply

Koushki

weemcd wrote: »

6-7 nights a week is simply overkill, cant be healthy spending that much time together, of course you are going to run out of things to talk about.

bullsh*t.

ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 22 months, and we see each other that often, i always stay in his house, and we never run out of things to say or do, and we have a pretty healthy relationship.

weemcd

Koushki wrote: »

bullsh*t.

ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 22 months, and we see each other that often, i always stay in his house, and we never run out of things to say or do, and we have a pretty healthy relationship.

and are you in the same situation as the op?:rolleyes:

Koushki

lol im not actually, you got me

IIMII

Unregistered wrote: »

I suppose I'm worried because while I am fairly attractive I sometimes feel that the personality doesn't match. I'm quite serious and I'd like to be funnier/wittier. I'm a bit concerned that he's twigged this and is getting bored of me , therefore would just prefer to be having sex with me than talking to me??

If he was bored with you, he would be bored with having sex with you. Don't worry about it. Ye are probably just overdosing on each other at the mo

kayos

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm a bit concerned that he's twigged this and is getting bored of me , therefore would just prefer to be having sex with me than talking to me??

You are in a newish relationship you should be going at it alike rabbid rabbits!

Read this forum which would you prefer to complain about that you are having too much intimicy or like how many other posters out there that there is none?

LegacyUser

I'm in the opposite situation. Have only had it once in the first six months of going out, yet there is a lot of sexual chemistry when we're together. Should I be concerned? These 'should be at it like rabbits' comments have got me thinking!

LegacyUser

Op here,

thanks for the replies. I don't think my post came across as it was supposed too. We don't run out of things to do or say and we do lots of other activities. I have a dog that we'd walk a couple of times a week, and often bring a picnic since the weathers gotten finer. We cook for each other, watch movies, go to the cinema or out at the weekends & we'd usually go visiting friends/family together too.

I don't think the amount of time is an issue either. We see our friends together as well and we do ahve the odd night off where we'd see them ourselves. In fact there was a night we did spend apart when doing nothing because I wasn't in good form after a ****ty day at work and we ended spending the whole night on the phone.

TBH now that it's all written down I can see that I'm probably just finding issues where there aren't any. Just all seems too good to be true sometimes, I'm sort of waiting for something to go wrong.

Koushki

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm in the opposite situation. Have only had it once in the first six months of going out, yet there is a lot of sexual chemistry when we're together. Should I be concerned? These 'should be at it like rabbits' comments have got me thinking!

you've only had sex once, in six months? and this is a new partner, like you've been with him for six months?
unless its something to do with religious beliefs or whatnot, its a little strange you're not at it like jack rabbits.

thats always the best part of a new relationship, where you can't keep your hands off each other. however if you're happy with the situation, each to their own!

Xiney

Unregistered #14, if you have a relationship issue you'd like to discuss please make your own thread rather than derailing this one.

Thanks, and I realise it was probably not your intention to go off topic.

Xiney

LegacyUser

Sounds like you are inventing things to worry about. As you said sometimes it seems too good to be true. Sounds too like maybe you have low self-esteem if you think he is only interested in having sex with you. From reading your post I would say that he is really into you and not in the least bit bored with you in or out of bed. Don't try to be more witty or funny or whatever it is you think your personality lacks. He obviously likes you just as you are; natural and not trying to be someone who you are not. Learn to feel good about yourself. Being yourself seems to have got you a guy who is into you and you into him so it obviously works. Enjoy being you!!!

tman

There's such a thing as too much sex now?
I would love to get even more than I am now, but there's just not enough hours in the day... That has absolutely nothing to do with me being bored of my GF, or not wanting to talk to her, it just means that sex rocks and I can't get enough of it!
There you go; my bit of male insight... Chances are your boyfriend feels the same

legend365

Too much is never enough!