I hate my life...

LegacyUser

i am pretty confused about my life...
im only 17 which makes it worse. I get choked up writing about this, but a few months ago i got caught smoking pot, and with the type of parents i have, they didnt take it to well. 2 months went by and i abided by their rules, but they were/still are to confiding. I'm not allowed to go out at nights for the rest of my high school life (senior year)... and i must waste my summer days on the couch while being forced to enjoy what ive been given. I don't understand how to put it but i dont want to look back on high school and see myself on the couch every single day. I used to go out every weekend night, enjoying myself socializing, the normal high school stuff. But my parents take my mistake of smoking pot as a felony. I feel as if i will grow depressed... with this sadness i'm instilling within myself. I still have 400+ days till i am out of this home and into college. Another thing is they are tryin to get me to stop being friends with my all my buds. They are my FRIENDS... you can't just stop talking to them. They made me happier than my parents will ever make me. If i'm overreacting or acting like a baby... please let me know, because I'm emotionally broken.

RossFixxxed

I'm not going to get into a debate on the cannabis issue. Some people will view it the same way as your parents, some won't. That's not the issue.

However, all you can do now is make EXTRA effort to help out around the house, help your parents and be open to them. They may keep you there for a bit but they may also relax the issue if they see you making effort, being productive, helpful, friendly etc. You need them to see you as you again, not a 'drug fiend' or however the perceive it. Look on it as each day you can do something to rebuild your relationship etc and show them you're ok, you're not a drug addict, you're not a total waste. They feel the need to shelter you and cut your friends out. You're going to have to convince them otherwise.

Obviously you can take the storming out fighting approach... but you know how that will look and how they will justify every rule they impose.

Good luck OP. I'd work on my exams and myself while you have this rather dubious 'opportunity'. It can't help!
Ross

! Hitman

don't be so upset. life is great..

suspectpackage

Grow up.

I wish I was 17 again, I would have put more effort into school and would have gotten into the course I wanted to get into.

You have an opportunity to get good high school qualifications and get into a good college course. You are in a position that some people dream of. You may find yourself looking back and wishing you were back in this position you are now in, unless you do what needs to be done and get good grades and get into a good course. Aim high. Stay away from the pot smoking "friends".

Sinall

Hi OP

You won't look back at high school and remember yourself sitting on the couch every single day. You will remember the good times you had. When I look back I wish I could have told my teenage self "This will pass" when times were bad, instead of getting upset over something that wasn't going to last.

Hang in there. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Whilst your parents reaction might seem extreme, I imagine they are trying to make sure that you live a happy healthy life. They probably see dangers that you don't imagine exist. I'm not a parent myself but I'd say that's part and parcel of being one! Sometimes concern can show as anger.

When does your senior year start? Make an effort to show your parents that you are responsible and mature etc and perhaps try to renegotiate the arrangement before you go back to school. The rational approach will get you further than shouting and arguing.

Best of luck!

RossFixxxed

suspectpackage wrote: »

Grow up.

I wish I was 17 again, I would have put more effort into school and would have gotten into the course I wanted to get into.

You have an opportunity to get good high school qualifications and get into a good college course. You are in a position that some people dream of. You may find yourself looking back and wishing you were back in this position you are now in, unless you do what needs to be done and get good grades and get into a good course. Aim high. Stay away from the pot smoking "friends".

He is in the process of growing up. 17 is young. I'm 27 and I'm bloody still growing a lot.

It is an enviable position to be in, but only with hindsight. Rembember who stressful 17 actually was. If you knew now what you knew then you'd do it different etc... but you can say that about any bygone era in your life!

HOWEVER, I totally agree he can use this and aim higher and better!

LegacyUser

Thanks guys i appreciate ure mature answers. I guess im just not used to being tied down. I was all worked up about my senior year coming up and the fun i would have. I just became pessimistic as days went by after i got in trouble. At times i wonder if my parents blew it out of proportion and those are the times i just want to rebel and go smoke a little bit of weed. Honestly i have many friends who have gotten in trouble but their parents are actually relieved that it isnt cocaine or something crazy. It's a part of the overall high school experience and i admit i will probably grow over it once im done w college or so. And I feel empty having no one i can relate with. All my friends are top 10 students who get school work done and party it up. You know the typical perfect student. And they have faced the trials and tribulations of getting caught with alcohol/pot but the difference was that their parents didnt hold it over their heads for months at a time. the most severe case besides mine was 1 month lockdown. I would much rather have that then this 1 year imprisonment. I think its a good idea i abide by my parents rule and pretty much suck up to them, but i run doubts in my mind when i imagine doing that and the end result goes not in my favor. I hope you guys see where im coming with this...

rantyface

It's fine to smoke hash, but not in final year. You should study for a few hours every day anyway, maybe go for a walk with music before bed.

Yes your parents are blowing it out of proportion, but a lot of people think weed is worse for you than alcohol simply because one is legal and the other isn't. They're not the worst people in the world, and their mistake is an honest misunderstanding. You won't need to deal with them in a few months. Can you not keep in touch with your friends in school? Tell them you're trying to get medicine or something so you have to study a lot.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Try reason with your parents. They're being completely out of order. Think how much you'll resent them in the future if you put if with this facism

dlofnep

Look at it this way - there's still college, and college life is alot more exciting than school. You'll have your freedom. Until then, it's up to you to man up to your parents and tell them that you're sorry for smoking pot, but that you need to hang out with your friends - because not being able to is sending you into serious depression. Don't be afraid to speak on behalf of yourself.

LegacyUser

Yes i see where all of u are coming from, but my parents are being close minded about my friends. They assume that since they smoke pot or they used to smoke pot they will forever remain a bad influence on me so pretty much they want me to make new friends... in my senior year of high school.. they won't understand i know if this keeps up i won't be back from college to visit them as much as theyd like..