Damsel in distress

LegacyUser

..so hey, im22yrs old and i feel like im going through a mid life crisis..always was so busy the last few months between college and work and college and work that i didn't have time to even think about myself but now that the summer is here i have a bit of time to myself and im starting to feel the lonely bug creeping up on me...i have a good circle of friends who im in contact with all the time and go out most weekends with but they also have men.im very independant and i always go through these i don't need a man anyway pcshh phases but i wouldn't mind havin someone of the opposite sex who cared about me,in fact i think id like it, you know someone to nag me and i can nag back..i hear the girls talking about silly little fights they have with their boyfriends but i actually want and am envious of that.i try updating my facebook to make myself appear oh my life is great but its average like everyone elses i suppose who spend endless amounts of time on the stupid thing.It was like a fill in the gap for loneliness..'oh see what so in so is doing..' but im not going on that anymore, because yes i do have my lonely days so im trying to do things-sport,guitar,theatre to make up for time on my tod..it's a funny new virtual generation we have entered and i dont really like it..and here i am still on a computer using it to communicate.....where should i be going and what should i be doing that will have me fighting the men off with ten inch poles?only joking but seriously at the same time..!

Karmafaerie

Everyone is different.
Some would say the obvious, bars/clubs etc, but personally I hate all that.
When I go out it's just to hang with friends.
I usually get annoyed with myself the next day if I end up going off with someone on a night out.
Mainly cause I missed out on all the fun with my group of friends!
I prefer meeting girls randomly, it's just always worked out better for me.

Personally I don't think that the electronic age makes too much of a difference.
It's down to your own sate of mind.

A lot of my friends try too hard in my oppinion.
If you're open to the concept of meeting someone, then you will.

I don't look for girls when I'm single, but I always leave myself open to the option.

Any social situation where you're out there, can't hurt.

onemorechance

Moi aussi! Just keeping busy with sports and work to kill the boredom!

RossFixxxed

I know where you are coming from. When I hit 20 (and get ready to start slagging) I had that 'mid life' type thing. Where am I going, why am I doing this course, what does it mean to MY LIFFFEEEE? You know the way. It's only 8 years on and I'm slowly learning to relax into life. I've realised the 'stupid' things people waffle about can actually be interesting and I've probably got 1000000000000 stupid, boring things that I love and would talk about.

If you pin your happiness on anyone else you will end up disappointed every time. People are people, they're flawed and weird and confusing. We all are and it's what makes us great. Your own happiness wouldn't be found in Buddha or Jesus, as they themselves said.

If you are happy in yourself, confident etc you will naturally be more attractive and open to encounters and opportunities. It's finding gold in the dirt really. An optimistic hardworker will sift it out...

Take up a few hobbies, look after yourself and let the guys start queuing!

Good luck