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Am I just unlucky or what's the story?

  • 15-06-2009 11:33PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    hey all at boards,

    let me explain my situation....during my school days (esp secondary school) I had plenty of friends. Even those i wouldn't call my friends, spoke to me as in I got on with people, there was no reason i wouldn't have. At the end of secondary school, however, I fell out with a girl who was very critical and negative. I found it too much to take and simply distanced myself from her.

    I went onto college where i met a great gang of people - except for one. Of course she and i ended up moving in together and to be quite honest with you, i dont know how i survived living for three years under the same roof. She was critical, negative, domineering, bossy - she questioned everything I did and said, she gave out to me if I missed lectures/labs, she had an opinion on everything. I became withdrawn, meek, I lacked self-esteem and I lived my life everyday hoping she wouldn't 'have a go' at me. She bullied and controlled me. At the end of the college year, I found the courage to stand up to her and we havent spoken since. It is a decision I don't regret however.

    I worked for a few years and met some great people, who I got on with well. In particular I made one very close friend. Then I decided to return to do another course in college. Once again I met a great gang of people, made a good few friends, and was happy with life. However two of my so called 'friends' turned out to be complete b****es - the type who are two-faced and talk about you behind your back. It took me a while to figure this out but when I did I dropped them straight away. In the meantime I had distanced myself from other people however and found it hard to make new friends. But I did make some friends, no close ones however, and finished college.

    Recently i have fallen out with that friend of mine that I used to work with (the person i spoke about at the beginning of the previous paragraph). She is cutting me out of her life because I havent been able to meet up with her in a while on account of me being so busy with assignments, final yr exams and looking after my 3 year old daughter. I think she is being unreasonable and expects me to crawl back begging her to 'forgive' me. But she insulted me pretty bad the last time I spoke to her, is not inviting me to parties etc. she has been having at her house recently, and so I don't feel that I should be the one crawling.

    however the fact that I have fallen out with five close friends since leaving secondary school is making me think there must be something wrong with me. Is it me? Or is that I am just unlucky and I've yet to meet genuine friends?


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    That all sounds pretty normal to me.

    Friends come and go. Some are good, some are bad.

    Be yourself and try surround yourself with people who make you feel good and like you for who you are.

    Life is too short to be around negative people who put you down.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Fiend-Foe wrote: »
    That all sounds pretty normal to me.

    Friends come and go. Some are good, some are bad.

    Be yourself and try surround yourself with people who make you feel good and like you for who you are.

    Life is too short to be around negative people who put you down.


    Well said +1 !

    Espicially school friends, im more friendly with totally different people from school than the gang i hung around in, Gangs can operate like a mini family sometimes and because they are not family if the situation is toxic or negative you can easily walk away family you will have for ever, friends come and go, its ok and its normal,

    also ever notice when you grow out of one friend another appears

    G'luck xx


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