Boyfriend smoking - reason to be concerned?

LegacyUser

In a newish relationship with a guy. everything is great,we seem to be going well, he is so sweet and all that except for one minor thing. He smokes weed, at least once a week, and becomes seriously weird/paranoid when he does. I have no problem with him smoking it, I'm not really into it but really have no problem with him doing it. I havent been with him when he has done it but i get crazy texts/phone calls.

The first was a couple weeks after we got together and he text me out of nowhere tellin me he wanted nothing serious and his mates tld him t be upfront about it. he then did a 180 to tell me how much he liked me and looked forward to our dates and all this. He called me the next day to apologise for talking sh!te.

Anyway I got another one tonight this time asking if i have been with any of his mates (i know a few of them - mutual friends) I was telling him something about a friend of mine another time and he got all strange wanting to kno who this friend was and how i knew him was i with him, etc.

i kno these are really minor things and maybe in one sense the little insecurities show that he likes me. I know early on we're both gonna have little insecurities,secretly i have them all the time but I am crazy about him and have given him no reason to think otherwise. I just got thinking about it this evening and worry if this paranoia when he's stoned could become an issue, like is he gonna start breaking up with me out of paranoia then ringing the next day to tell me it was just coz he was stoned.

VaioCruiser

The bells are ringing loudly !! listen to them.

Bottle_of_Smoke

The first was a couple weeks after we got together and he text me out of nowhere tellin me he wanted nothing serious and his mates tld him t be upfront about it. he then did a 180 to tell me how much he liked me and looked forward to our dates and all this. He called me the next day to apologise for talking sh!te.

Anyway I got another one tonight this time asking if i have been with any of his mates (i know a few of them - mutual friends) I was telling him something about a friend of mine another time and he got all strange wanting to kno who this friend was and how i knew him was i with him, etc.

I think that's all related to him and not weed. I think its important to point out because you don't want to end up going out with a nut and blaming all his bad sides on a low strength plant

AnonoBoy

Paranoid about whether you've been with any of his mates?

Bad sign.

I'd tread very carefully and if this sort of nonsense continues, finish it. These situations usually end with him outside your house at 3 in the morning demanding to see you 'to work things out' at full volume.

LegacyUser

OP here again .. I think the thing getting to me most is that i know I haven't given him reason to be like this - really I'm not into games or making him jealous. I don't even look at another guy if we're out, have never spoken about his mates, i'm not even that close to them, i'd know them and can chat to them but they are his mates not mine if ye get me. I just know that if I was the one saying these things he's be on bunny boiler alert... I dunno maybe I am just thinking the worst out of nothing.