Feel forgotten and left out

LegacyUser

I have a small group of close friends in univerisity. A few minutes ago I found out that a lot of those friends are going off to England on a mini-break type thing. It's not all of them but of those that aren't going they happen to be in other countries at the moment and will be when this holiday happens.

It may sound petty but I'm a little upset that I was included. They know that I'm free and actually I'd like to go with them but it seems as though everything is all organised.
I haven't been in much contact with them since the summer began (kinda everyone's fault), but I can't believe that they'd forget about me.

The only thing I can think that I may have done for them to decide not to invite me is that when the semester ended and the class went camping for a few days, I didn't go. And when a lot of the group had a meetup after that trip, I didn't go either. Both times I had genuine excuses not to be there but because they didn't ask, I didn't tell.

But still, the fact that I wasn't able to make it to two meetups (relatively close together) is hardly reason enough to leave me out. Is it?

That_Guy

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I have a small group of close friends in univerisity. A few minutes ago I found out that a lot of those friends are going off to England on a mini-break type thing. It's not all of them but of those that aren't going they happen to be in other countries at the moment and will be when this holiday happens.

It may sound petty but I'm a little upset that I was included. They know that I'm free and actually I'd like to go with them but it seems as though everything is all organised.
I haven't been in much contact with them since the summer began (kinda everyone's fault), but I can't believe that they'd forget about me.

The only thing I can think that I may have done for them to decide not to invite me is that when the semester ended and the class went camping for a few days, I didn't go. And when a lot of the group had a meetup after that trip, I didn't go either. Both times I had genuine excuses not to be there but because they didn't ask, I didn't tell.

But still, the fact that I wasn't able to make it to two meetups (relatively close together) is hardly reason enough to leave me out. Is it?

What are you complaining for?

I kid.

But seriously I know how you feel. Have you tried maybe asking them is there any more room on the trip? If not what's stopping you from booking your own flight and accommodation in the same place?

Don't wait to be asked. Just give one of the lads/girls a ring and say "Hey, I heard you're going away to England. Is there any chance I can come?"

wylo

OP, you can be sure its because of the 2 other trips, why didnt you tell them the reasons for not going before, they dont have to ask for you to say it.
Is it too late to ask can you come along?
What has happened now is its the standard for you not to go to these things so they probably didnt think of inviting you for that very reason.

I bet if you go to this and have a good time they will invite you all the time after that.

Dan Chipowski

Agree with the above. It is definitely because of the other two trips/meetings. They probably just feel like giving up on you.

I was a right oddball in college and didn't want to be included in anything, and it's the same every year, you get asked to a few things, you decline, then you aren't asked again

If you want to go, contact one of the group and I think you will find they will only be too happy for you to go.