Sh!t stirring

LegacyUser

Hi,

Both myself and my girlfriend are 21.
A while ago, somebody I don't know left a comment on my bebo page, pretending to know me, claiming they saw me kiss someone else a few days ago, then saying "I didn't realise your page said in a relationship, was that supposed to be secret?"

I don't know this person, my girlfriend doesn't know this person, and it's not true. For that reason, I didn't delete the comment, and told my girlfriend about them straight away.

Now she believes them, as she doesn't know why anyone would have any reason to lie about that, and even though I keep trying to convince her that I would never cheat on her, she doesn't think anyone would have written that if it wasn't true.

Is there any way I can show her that I didn't?

Nevyn

I suggest you close your bebo account and tell the gf if it's going to cause trouble and people are going to use it to spread hurtful lies and flase rumours to damage your relationship then you want nothing to do with the site or the poeple that use it.

Doctor DooM

Point out to your GF that bebo is an unregulated, unmoderated mess where anyone can say anything they like and she is going to have to trust you.


Then, as Thaed points out, get shot of the account.

kmart6

Well there's no way you can properly show her!

But at the same time she should trust you enough to believe you! The fact she doesn't should lead you to ask some questions about the relationship!

LegacyUser

SDooM wrote: »

Point out to your GF that bebo is an unregulated, unmoderated mess where anyone can say anything they like and she is going to have to trust you.


Then, as Thaed points out, get shot of the account.

The fact that it's bebo isn't my problem, I like using it for storing pictures and talking to friends and that kind of thing.

There was a specific pub mentioned that I was in a few days ago, so it seems to be someone that actually knows me / knows of me trying to break us up using a fake account. But the girlfriend is still suspicious because she doesn't see any reason for anyone to lie about that.

LegacyUser

kmart6 wrote: »

Well there's no way you can properly show her!

But at the same time she should trust you enough to believe you! The fact she doesn't should lead you to ask some questions about the relationship!

The worst thing about it is, we already had a fight on friday so this was all thrown on top of the weird feelings from then. (The fight came after the night where it was claimed I cheated)

JonathanAnon

As said above, Just delete it. Bebo is for kids. All this crap about rating your friends (whether they are in your top 16 or not etc etc) and whether you are in a relationship or not.

If you have to use one of the social networking sites, use Facebook. It's a bit more adult. A few of my friends have deleted their Bebo pages cos of the amount of time they wasted on it, and most companies block Bebo altogether. Why not spend the time with your girlfriend instead? :-)

LegacyUser

i had a friend, her boyfriend had a little fan club and they all obsessed about him, they pulled this crap too, its probably someone you know, someone who either hates you and wants to hurt you or someone who fancies you and wants you for themselves

pretty simple put your account on private and dont invite anyone you dont know, tell your girlfriend the friends you were with and she can ask them, you dont cheat you love her, someone is just trying to be an arse,

i dont get jealous usually but if someone said that about my boyfriend i love and trust i'ld still be like "huh....oh god hope not"

.DarDarBinks

everyone is just a little paranoid, the more you fall in love the more suspicous one can be, even a simple comment like that can call your relationship into question you need to reassure her you would never do such a thing, but dont bring it up if you havnt spoken about it for awhile, it will just pass over.

LegacyUser

OP here

It's still going on, the lie is getting more and more elaborate.
There was another fake account set up yesterday that emailed me basically hinting that they wanted to break us up because they liked my girlfriend. My girlfriend thinks this could be a random guy who happened to stumble on the comments.
Then this morning I got a comment from a girl claiming to be the girl I cheated on her with ("I refused to give her my number", how she got my bebo is a mystery to me) and I'm asking loads of questions to catch them out and prove that they don't know me, and didn't see me on the night in question. I'd bet my life that it was another fake account set up by the same person.

When this is over I'm definitely putting my page on private, but not until it's all resolved. If I put it on private now it'll look like I'm trying to hide something, which I'm not. I'm just losing my faith in humans.

Nevyn

It is not worth the trouble or hassle in trying to figure out who's doing it or why.
If they are going to such lenghts they they will lie to your face about it.
Grow up, delte the account and get a flickr or set it to private and invest your time in saving your realtionship if that is possible at this stage and stop looking around at other's as the scoure of the strife between you and your gf.