Can't Meet a Genuine Woman

Ivor_Schlong

Hi all newbie here

long story short is

im a 28 year old guy , tall , decent looking , and single 4 years

when i was younger i was always meeting women , no problem whatsoever ( not being cocky ) but it was true , always had a gf or date of some sort , then i was in a 6.5 year relationship and then another one for 1 year ( which i was heart broken over ) but thats been 4 years ago and well over it

now when i go out i seem to meet women who have kids ( im not into that as i want my own kids someday and i always meet women with kids so decided enough is enough of that ) or i meet women who have their ex hanging around or women just interested in being easy ( most men would like that ) and for a short time i did too , however im looking to meet somebody for a serious thing maybe , should we both gel etc

ive tried online dating to no avail , the usual , or the women on them are looking for brad pitt or david beckham etc fickle i know

my friends stay in the same pub week in and week out all single lads , now i know its not up to them to go places so i can meet a woman , but im not gonna go on my own to the pub

so whats the alternative ??????? im not a shallow person ok so didnt mean to sound like it if i did , just fed up of the lack of single genuine women

sorry for long post

help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MIN2511

Everyone's in the same boat!!!

Same advice everywhere: keep searching!

Pagemaster

Being female....I have the view that guy's online are very fickle aswell...so it's tough for both sides......I would class myself as quite genuine...pm me if you're want to chat

LegacyUser

Hey
I'm a female a year younger than you and seem to have the same problem
it just gets harder with age, most guys I like have beautiful girlfriends or are not into anything serious as they're still only young
Most places I go now, I feel so old in them, like a different generation
most of my friends are settled down with long term partners and like yourself don't go to different places so i can get talking to someone
the whole online thing, have done that myself and is not great in my experience.
I think the best option is not to dwell on it too much and it will happen when you least expect it, in the meantime try going out with different groups of people and join different things and just focus on enjoying yourself if you're on a night out
That's what I'm doing and fingers crossed it works

fats83

Maybe there should be a descreet section for all of us singles to chat on boards?

Seriously is there any nice women out there looking for a nice guy?

Pagemaster

you could also ask the question....is there any nice guys out there looking for a nice gal/s.....goes both ways...all just gonna have to keep looking for that fish!!:)

July

Several new members in this thread!

I believe that the right person will come along at the right time, there's no point looking too hard. Although staying in/doing nothing/being a hermit is going to reduce the chances of meeting 'The One'.

The love thing is all timing really and OP, you've plenty of time. Lots of my friends are 'settling down' but just because I'm 28 and single, doesn't mean I'm going to 'settle for' somebody who's less than right for me. Anyone can do that.. I was doing that up until last year when I decided that actually, I'd be better off on my own in the long run than with the guy I had been seeing.

Enjoy having the time by yourself and to share with your family and friends. I always think that all the wonderful feelings of meeting someone/flirting/falling in love etc are all ahead of me and that excites me! When love comes knocking on your door it'll be all the sweeter for having had to wait for it... (I hope :eek:)

fats83

Pagemaster wrote: »

you could also ask the question....is there any nice guys out there looking for a nice gal/s.....goes both ways...all just gonna have to keep looking for that fish!!:)

Well page master there is a few genuine guys out there... very few women like romance any more!

July I totally agree with you there is nothing like texting, flirting and the mystery to meeting up with someone for sure..

Zaph

fats83 wrote: »

Maybe there should be a descreet section for all of us singles to chat on boards?

Seriously is there any nice women out there looking for a nice guy?

Just a reminder that Boards in general, and PI in particular, is not a dating site.

alfaromeo84

I have to agree with the OP, it hard to believe the amount of single mothers out there, and also its difficult to meet decent genuine girls, an awful lot of them are full of themselves.

It does get harder when you get a bit older(i'm 30), and your friends are all settled.

I think i might just get a dog.

LegacyUser

alfaromeo84 wrote: »

I have to agree with the OP, it hard to believe the amount of single mothers out there, and also its difficult to meet decent genuine girls, an awful lot of them are full of themselves.

It does get harder when you get a bit older(i'm 30), and your friends are all settled.

I think i might just get a dog.

Your post makes it sound like all single mothers out there are not decent genuine girls, well I'm a single mom, didn't set out to be one, my childs father decided he didn't want to do the 'decent' thing by us, and for every single mother there is always a single father!. I take exception to your comments and that of the OP, I am a decent genuine caring person who deserves to be just as happy as any other person irrespective of whether I have a child or not.

Perhaps the reason you can't find someone genuine is because you haven't given any of the genuine ladies out there a chance because you are too judgemental of them, so perhaps your right, get your dog!

winking weber

I dunno what the alternative is. We're out there. I know personally, I dont really fall for people until I know them quite well. I guess the chances get better the more you get out and meet people. Pubs and clubs really arent the place though. Online dating wouldnt be my thing either.

SLUSK

Ivor_Schlong wrote: »

Hi all newbie here

long story short is

im a 28 year old guy , tall , decent looking , and single 4 years

when i was younger i was always meeting women , no problem whatsoever ( not being cocky ) but it was true , always had a gf or date of some sort , then i was in a 6.5 year relationship and then another one for 1 year ( which i was heart broken over ) but thats been 4 years ago and well over it

now when i go out i seem to meet women who have kids ( im not into that as i want my own kids someday and i always meet women with kids so decided enough is enough of that ) or i meet women who have their ex hanging around or women just interested in being easy ( most men would like that ) and for a short time i did too , however im looking to meet somebody for a serious thing maybe , should we both gel etc

ive tried online dating to no avail , the usual , or the women on them are looking for brad pitt or david beckham etc fickle i know

my friends stay in the same pub week in and week out all single lads , now i know its not up to them to go places so i can meet a woman , but im not gonna go on my own to the pub

so whats the alternative ??????? im not a shallow person ok so didnt mean to sound like it if i did , just fed up of the lack of single genuine women

sorry for long post

help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Quick advice, just skip the irish women and you'll be grand

Wibbs

Lets not get into the stereotypes please.

Shelli

Why would being with a woman who already has a child stop you from having your own children??

Your ruling out quite a large amount of women on a whim.. IMO. Fair enough, single mothers can bring a little complication to a relationship, but so too can women without children.

Why not just treat each woman as an individual and not as a stereotype, then you'll have a much better chance of finding someone worthwhile

Ivor_Schlong

hey all thanks for the replies , just been away for a few days

i dont have a problem with women with kids , i just seem to always meet them , maybe its because all women my age seem to have been in a longterm thing before and maybe have a kid as a result of it , however anytime ive been with a woman with a kid or kids , it just hasnt worked , can't go out because you need a babysitter , or the kids dad is hanging around

its just not for me , i just want to have my own kids someday and not have somebody elses shouting at me " your not my daddy " etc etc

friend of mine is shelling out a fortune on somebody elses kid and he doesnt like it but hasnt the heart to tell his gf it bothers him

im not a bad bloke ok , and single parents arent bad either , its just not for me as i have tried and its just a niggling thing in my head that just wants my own gf and own kids thats all

its a preference like some women dont like bald men , fat men , skinny men etc

alfaromeo84

In reply to Single Mom, I was simply saying there are a lot of single mothers out there, possibly for the reasons pointed out by the OP I did not say they didn't deserve to be happy, because after all thats what we all want.

I don't consider myself judgemental, i know a single mother whom i would think is a good person. I realise that there is no point in being a couple or family just for the sake of a child, if both people are unhappy or its just not working out.