Too Noisy in Bed

LegacyUser

Ok .. sorry to disappoint but this nothing to do with amorous activities but more to do with what comes after ... namely sleep. The problem as you may have guessed in the drone that emanates from me keeps my partner awake at night. We are a new couple and totally in love and I can see this potentially killing our passion quicksmart.

What to do? I have looked online at various natural remedies. I don't drink excessively, don't smoke, don't sleep on my back ... all the usual stuff that causes snoring. Has anyone experienced this in their relationship to the degree that it put a strain on it and what the hell do I do to make it stop before my ass is kicked to the kerb?

Cheers.

Nevyn

Firstly I would suggest talking to your dr about it there could be an underlying medical condition in play and secondly have you tried the nasal strips?

mother_rucker

This may sound a little strange but many people (myself included) harbour a snoring fetish of sorts. I've done some research and it's not overtly sexual but more of a comfort thing.

This may not help with your current relationship, but you should certainly take it into account in the future.

jdivision

Get checked out by a specialist. I've snored badly for years and turns out I have mild sleep apnea from my tonsils being huge so I've got to get them out

John Mason

My OH sounds like a tractor when he sleeps.

Ear Plugs FTW

Slow Motion

I am the same OP and could wake up the neighbours with my snoring, different remedies work for different people, I use silence (mods don't know if I should name products or not so feel free to snip) and while it's not perfect it works often enough that I haven't been sentenced to the couch!

Davidth88

' Silence ' I found can help

This may not be totally helpful to the OP considering the statge of the relationship , but is your other half over weight ?

If you're keeping him/her awake, perhaps you can suggest they go to sleep first and you stay awake til you're sure they are? Unless the noise you make is actually sufficient to wake them up, is it?

LegacyUser

Sorry this is no comfort but I'm the same as the OP but I have been kicked to the kerb (as in the spare room). Sex life a distant memory. Tried everything, the ring (what a waste of 50 euro!), silence, nasal sprays,nasal strips. Tonsils out years ago so I know its not that. If anyone has found something that works I'll be equally glad to hear the answer!

Lolaa

Im exactly the same, tried everything and nothin has worked - not even helped one littel bit.

My OH has gotten used to it now and just turns up the tv if im snoring too loud

LegacyUser

Have or had the same problem, snoring!!!! . So bad i could hear myself snoring at times when asleep.I would have to let my girlfriend go to bed 20 minutes before I could go. and even then i would waken her.She said it was like sleeping beside a chainsaw!! Girlfriend was not happy and would go to the spare room and then would be pissed with me the next day.Tried all the usual remidies but to no avail. (silence, nasal strips,ring etc.) Got so bad I went to my Doctor who refered me to a specialist, Specialist sent me to have an x-ray and to attend the sleep clinc in the Mater. As i was not covered under my health insurance policy, sleep clinic gave me a monitor to wear over night (out patient) which recorded my sleep pattern. Went back to the specialist with the x-ray and she had the results from the monitor. My problem is that my soft pallet is too large. Its this that vibrates and makes the snoring noise.I also have mild sleep apnea which mean that the snoring affect my sleep, in order words i don't get a proper nights sleep as the snoring is affecting my breathing which interupt my REM sleep.
The Good News. The Specialist told me that it was treatable and refered me to a specialist dentist to get a dental device made. The purpose of the device is to move my lower jaw slightly forward giving my soft palet more room. Went to the dentist who moulded my teeth and made the device. Its basicly a top and bottom gum shield which keeps my mouth slighty open whilst moving my jaw forward. Only got it last thursday and so far so good, GF says the snoring has stopped. Felt a bit odd at first but getting used to it. Worth any hassle as now we can go to bed together and dont get brusied ribs anymore!!!!
The Bad News: So far, cost about €1000. This dental device (€600) is only temporary to see if it works and I have to go back to the Sleep specialist to check the effect on my sleep apnea. Dentist recons that the proper dental device will cost €1500+

Hope this is of help, sorry its so long but i took me a long time to get all the facts my self ,if its of benift to any body its worth all the one finger typing.

LegacyUser

I have been sick the past couple of days with an ear infection so haven't really been online.

Some great answers guys especially the previous one which even though it sounds expensive maybe be worth looking into.

@ Davidth88 My other half is in good physical shape. She is 10 years younger than me and takes really good care of herself with a healthy lifestyle and organic skincare etc.

This could be part of my need to not let something like this affect what we have because like I said I am so into her and would do anything for her.

Curvy Vixen

Drone, I think that the other poster meant were you overweight? (Think I'm right in reading you you keep your OH awake??)

It's one of the main factors in snoring. If you aren't and as you say, you don't really fit into any of the other categories then seek medical help.

They won't laugh at you or anything, it's recognised more and more as a serious issue nowadays.

My ex was perfect weight, non drinker, non smoker etc and was referred to a sleep clinic. Turns out his snoring was louder in decibels than a pneumatic drill :eek: but then I could have told them that!

He ended up having laser treatment on his soft palette as it used to relax in sleep and cover his airway, hence the snoring. It was a three part treatment which was painless but after a year it did the trick.

This will stay with you for life if not treated and as a snorers partner, trust me, it can be totally debilitating to a relationship and is well worth fixing

John Mason

dairy products also make snoring worse - something to do with the mucus it creates. cut out milk and cheese etc. and see if that helps

tbh i cant recommend earplugs highly enough.

cheap solution 99cent a pair

Curvy Vixen

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

dairy products also make snoring worse - something to do with the mucus it creates. cut out milk and cheese etc. and see if that helps

tbh i cant recommend earplugs highly enough.

cheap solution 99cent a pair

Very true...it increases mucus in the lungs which can lead to more laboured breathing.

I used to use earplugs pfb but they irritated me nearly as much as my ex LOL!

I went through loads of types and styles but I was always conscious they were there even in my sleep or they'd fall out and wake you or something. And I started missing my alarm going off in the morning for work...bloody nightmare!

John Mason

my friends bf used to snore something terrible and then he walked into a wall last christmas and broke his nose, not a sound out of him now :)

coadyj

you think that's bad, I talk in my sleep and my former other half used to ask me questions that I was too asleep to lie about, she found out many of my secrets that way.

If its just snoring, be thankful and don't worry about it, men find it endearing, especially for the first few months / years of a relationship

coadyj

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

my friends bf used to snore something terrible and then he walked into a wall last christmas and broke his nose, not a sound out of him now :)

now thats odd advice, break you noise?

LegacyUser

Curvy Vixen wrote: »

Drone, I think that the other poster meant were you overweight? (Think I'm right in reading you you keep your OH awake??)

Sorry maybe the OP wasn't that clear. I am the dude who snores in the house. I am late 30's, slim bordering on thin, relatively healthy lifestyle apart from the odd binge/slurge.

you think that's bad, I talk in my sleep and my former other half used to ask me questions that I was too asleep to lie about, she found out many of my secrets that way.

Just given me an idea. Victory will ensue!

Seriously though I am going to see my GP anyway and will ask about a possible underlying cause for this. I just want good times and happy vibes in the crib.