What kind of girl would go out with me?

LegacyUser

ok so im 18 but like i dont really act like grown up if you get me, i mean for one i look like im 15, and my mentality is like what it was when i was 15(however i was always kinda more aware and stuff when i was younger compared to people in school)

i dont know how to describe me but im just a bit 'uncovential', i go gym 5 times a week but i equally read comic books or skateboard with ma friends.

do you think its possible for me to ever get a girlfriend? i mean i never go to clubs or any of that **** and any girls who i know never view me as like bf material, its weird im really emotional in ways but i act like a robot around girls lol

its ok for the moment i mean im in no rush but i dont know how in the future i will be mature to have 'proper' relationship or hell even have a normal job but thats another matter.

dlofnep

Man, you're only 18. Relax.. You'll find someone. I'm 26, and sitting at home with a bottle of red wine watching 2 guys beat the utter tripe out of each other. Which isn't a bad life..

But still - Worry not! You'll mature as time goes on, and as soon as you start hitting pubs & clubs - opportunities will arise.

I_am_Jebus

Unregistered wrote: »

ok so im 18 but like i dont really act like grown up if you get me, i mean for one i look like im 15, and my mentality is like what it was when i was 15(however i was always kinda more aware and stuff when i was younger compared to people in school)

i dont know how to describe me but im just a bit 'uncovential', i go gym 5 times a week but i equally read comic books or skateboard with ma friends.

do you think its possible for me to ever get a girlfriend? i mean i never go to clubs or any of that **** and any girls who i know never view me as like bf material, its weird im really emotional in ways but i act like a robot around girls lol

its ok for the moment i mean im in no rush but i dont know how in the future i will be mature to have 'proper' relationship or hell even have a normal job but thats another matter.

At this stage does it really matter? I can guarantee you that in a few years time yo wont be the person you are now. You are at an age where you will find your personality, interests etc... will change radically s the you progress.

As different as you think you are.... there are many different groups of people in this country and world. You will fall into one of the many groups with many of others... plenty of people will want to date you based on your way of life and equally many people will want to date you for many other reasons... Life and dating.. is not straightforward.... weird, wonderful.... and not so wonderful things always happen. You just have to be prepared for eventualities

The BOFH

Trying to change yourself to fit in with what you think others want will just make you unhappy, it's better to be alone and happy than be with someone that you have to change yourself to be with and be unhappy. You're also very young and if you are still very immature it just might take you a few years to settle into adulthood.

Find a girl who's into going to the gym, reading comics & skateboarding and you're set! If you use an online dating service, there are plenty of free ones, you can meet like minded girls. I am an only child & went to an all boys school and it took me me a couple of years to be relaxed around women when I went to college & uni as I just didn't have much contact with girls growing up. Confidence is the most attractive feature, if you are confident and relaxed in yourself you will find you are getting more female attention, they don't like guys who try too hard.

rosepetal

You are 18, I dont know hardly anyone who was grown up at 18!. Relax and just be yourself, enjoy being young. Nothing wrong with reading comics and skateboarding , if thats what you like. Everyone is different, thats what makes life interesting. Life experiences will give you confidence and maturity, thats the way its meant to be.

Angelicus_22

Are you actually posting here, hoping that some girl will read this and think, oh he sounds like my perfect guy and then message you and it will be happy ever after....because that probably wont happen!!!!!!!!!!

af_thefragile

Hah, you sound like me OP.
I too still feel i'm stuck at when I was 16.
I love riding my BMX bike, hanging around town, watching cartoons, doing stupid things... I don't go to pubs/clubs much either... Don't really enjoy em much.

Just chill. Be what you wanna be.
A lot of girls around do act very grown up. But you know what, if you don't get along with them well, then a relationship with them will not work either.

And then you'll eventually find a girl just like you who's into the kind of thing you like and it'll all work out perfect.

So just chill out, don't worry about it too much and live your life. You're only 18, you're still pretty young to worry about all these things. Have fun.

Eric Cartman

you say you act 15 , and look 15, but are 18, why not go out with a 15 year old, they like older guys and theres nothing wrong with it ,

valery

ah your doing ok........couple of years down the rd. and you will be
working your butt off to pay for a romantic trip for you and your
girl , so dont worry /its waiting for you. :rolleyes:

Ginja Ninja

Angelicus_22 wrote: »

Are you actually posting here, hoping that some girl will read this and think, oh he sounds like my perfect guy and then message you and it will be happy ever after....because that probably wont happen!!!!!!!!!!

bit off point,but this has actually happened to a few people on these forums,I've seen a few posts from people saying they met their husband/wife making a post like this PM'd them and got married a few years later.Nothing personal,but there's always hope

But OP,I know how you feel, you've a few almost contradicting interests,don't worry about it,you'll be grand
GinjaNinja-CulchieJockNerd of the C&H Forum

Nevyn

OK why do you want a gf?
Why are you looking to change who you are?
IF there some girl you want and you are looking at tailoring yourself so that she will be interested in you?
Or are you looking for reassurance that there are 'girls' out there who are into comics or at least understanding of guys who are?

LegacyUser

You're just like most other 18 year old boys really... whats the issue?

legend365

Haha go travel to asia or africa on your own. You'll come back an Alpha male for sure.

Some people need the ego boost of going to clubs and telling everyone the day after about it. They lack the self-esteem to just sit in on a sat night like they wanted to.

JangoFett

Unregistered wrote: »

ok so im 18 but like i dont really act like grown up if you get me, i mean for one i look like im 15, and my mentality is like what it was when i was 15(however i was always kinda more aware and stuff when i was younger compared to people in school)

i dont know how to describe me but im just a bit 'uncovential', i go gym 5 times a week but i equally read comic books or skateboard with ma friends.

do you think its possible for me to ever get a girlfriend? i mean i never go to clubs or any of that **** and any girls who i know never view me as like bf material, its weird im really emotional in ways but i act like a robot around girls lol

its ok for the moment i mean im in no rush but i dont know how in the future i will be mature to have 'proper' relationship or hell even have a normal job but thats another matter.

I hear ya man! I exercise all the time, play soccer as often as I possibly can but at the same time I'm a comic book nerd and a trekkie and I'm hugely into sci fi and a big cinema/movie buff. An odd combination of things.

Having a normal job comes with time, if you're not ready for it, you're grand, I'm 23 and only got a real job 6 months ago.

And as far as getting women goes...I'm not sure how to say anything that actually counts for something. Just try get out there and learn to dance, even if you look a bit silly, at least you're trying. Just don't get wasted! And I've oddly learned that some girls find us nerds really attractive and cute. Maybe it's cuz we're kinda childlike?

I wish you the best of luck man!

johnmaloney88

don't worry dude, i was always useless with girls, then i started seeing them as just people. talk to them like u talk to ur friends, if u big them up too much then u are off to a bad start. u just need to relax, and if u go out and look for a woman u definitely won't find one, i always end up with a girl when i'm not lookin for one. at the moment i'm mad for a woman but can i hell get one!! so just stop worryin and just enjoy life! also read "The Game"!!! that'll teach u how to score chicks!

Sean@boards.ie

You are GREAT!

See what I did there?

You have brain. well done. try not to let it let it lead you astray.

I did

BumbleB

Youre like me and plenty others .I don't see any problem there at all.

I played with lego until I was 17.I loved making structures.

When I was 16 I spent my whole life playing guitar .8 hrs a day nonstop .People told me I was useless at it but I still carried on. A few years later I was playing in a platinum producers studio. He told me that I was one of the best guitarists he has ever worked with and he has recorded aerosmith and loads of bands.

I had girls attracted to me but they were getting in the way at the time of my dream.I discovered women and drink later which kind of put a halt on my creative process.It's fun but a netherless empty life ,like watching reality TV. You watch big brother then it's over and it's not important anymore.You probably don't remember any of the names of the people on it next year. Thats what an alcoholic social life and asociated one night stands are all about.

You're far better off building on something that you can continue for a lifetime .


There is no such thing as bf material every woman is different and you can never tell what a woman likes.
Comics are excellent ,they stimulate your imagination and that is something that is sadly lacking in today's world . Lots of adults read them .Also if youre imagination is excellent and you can stimulate a girls imagination then you will have no problem getting women. Youre a skater boi also which is excellent.


Personally I'm reading the watchman now and I think its great.

The point of this story is not about me or my apparent ego ,its about following your gut instincts ,do what makes you happy keep doing it and stay happy for a lifetime and everything will fall into place.

RossFixxxed

Dude, I'm 27, playin guitar hero, watchin spongebob etc! I've a gf of 7 years now, living together all that stuff. There's loads of girls out there with all kinds of interests attracted to all kinds of people. You will be fine! Even though it's only 9 years between us I can see a big difference with me now and at you age... Let alone at 47!! I can only imagine. Relax into life a little and you'll be fine.