Family Mayhem-Advice

LegacyUser

Need advice here,quick! Basically my family is f***d, this is a bit heavy but I'll try anything. My sister has just turned 17. For the past 4 years she's been getting into bother with police and has been impossible to live with. Really impossible, tantrums like you wouldn't believe, smashing windows,doors etc. When she throws one she is visibly shaking, its like something from a horror film. Also found out she was doing all sorts of sh1t with groups of lads, from the age of 13.In past 6 months she started seeing a guy, and seemed to settle a bit.

Recently they broke up, and she told us he was 24. She was 16.Wrong & Illegal I know. Ever since, she has completely lost it. She's been self harming, taking od's. She came to stay with me for a while and was at home with my gf while I was at work. It only lasted 2 days because she was ringing this 24 yr old scumbag and he didnt want to talk to her, and her screaming etc actually made my gf cry with fear.

She went home and kept this up. 4 weeks later my ma(who is only 43) had a heart attack because of the stress. My sis hasnt changed a bit after this. My ma is waiting on social services to find her somewhere to go then she's kicking her out. I'm really worried about what will happen to her, how long she'll last. But then i think she has to go,
that if she stays there's a good chance she'll give me ma another heart attack and she might not be so lucky this time.

I dont live at home, I'm 150 miles away but i get back for weekends when i can.Just gettin my own life together, decent job and a new business going. Don't know what to do really, i cant quit my job and whole life and go rushing back home, but both my ma and sis need looking after, needless to say there's no da around.

Anyone who has tips/experience of this, your help would be really appreciated. Thanks.

JuliusCaesar

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Ever since, she has completely lost it. She's been self harming, taking od's. .

She sounds completely caught up in her own unhappiness. Would she go to counselling? There may be services specifically for teenagers. You could ring these up and they might know of services in your home area.

rosepetal

hi, I dont have any experience of that sort of stuff but your sister sounds like she needs professional help. it just doesnt sound like something that will sort itself out at this stage. Perhaps your gp might know where to go for counselling?

Wagon

Get her to a doctor. Get her into care. Most importantly, get her out of the damn house!

LegacyUser

Yeah she's been to doctor, he referred to counseling, but she refuses to go. We cant persuade her, no reasoning at all.
Thanks for your posts, sadly it looks like we're just going to have to do what we think is right at each new episode. Short of getting her sectioned, not much else to do.
Thanks again

LegacyUser

I was in a similar situation.My lil sister had some really awful stuff happen to her and some time afterward she cracked up!She roared,trashed the house,hurt herself and basically took all of her anger out on us.This lasted for months untill we gave her the option of going to talk to someone or we were going to have to get her sectioned because we just couldnt live with her anymore.She didnt take that news very well and she left home(she was 17).But after a few weeks she came home and agreed to see someone.We had to go for family councilling with her and eventually she started talking and we found out all the stuff that was bothering her.Not only did it help her to talk about it but it helped us to understand what she was going through.I really think your sis needs to talk to someone because she is ovbiously very unhappy and messed up.If it goes on for much longer who knows how it would end!