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Family in a rut

  • 05-06-2009 02:05AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    hey!


    My family recently moved to a rural location and myself moving out for the 1st time and staying in the city, but everytime i go home its depressing...


    My father, a former successful business man sold his business in dublin and we thought okay we'd be a little more comfortable from here on in, then my drunk sister(she's not an alco or anything, she just let it slip when she was drunk) told me that dad owed revenue ALOT of €€ so he got very, very little for the company. Dad has since attemped to set up again in the rural area but has since turned the garage and a room in the house into a warehouse and office but the thing that grinds me is that he isnt waking up early and giving it 100%, he'l go on the job around 11 and then to be honest isnt putting much effort in atall, I study business and Iv on many occasions tried to offer some advice/help but he just wishes me away and refuses also to embrace the internet - hasnt a clue how to work it and refuses to get classes on it!


    My mother, who quit her old job down to a fight with a co-worker has always been i know its harsh but a bit fake and over the years iv watched as her friend list diminished, all she does now is homemaker things and drinks tea and complains we have no money but when i mention to her go at least try get a job she takes a nap! She has never really worked fulltime since us kids were born and did lose her mother (my gran) just over a year ago but still shes just no being proactive and it drives me insane....she again doesnt have a clue about the internet, which i truely believe in rural settings especially are an invaluable resource!


    then theres my little brother (17) who bugs them for money they dont have, throws a fit and loses his temper if he doesnt get his way and literally just stays in his bedroom all the time and was recently caught by my parents with a block of hash. he decided to quit school out of lack of interest and has since gone back but has failed all his exams to date.His mates are also, to put it in the nicest way possible -scum, i know a few of them and they are reknowned drug users and general thugs - robbing phones etc etc


    Theres also a 8 year old little brother who apparently is the only one without issues - hes playing with the local gaa club (dad manages the team) and his small school, he has a good few friends from school!




    I know im not perfect myself but I do like to think I try sort out any problems/issues I have and so does anyone have any advice on this???Keeping in mind,that a 20year old son giving life advice wouldnt exactly be the most common thing! apologies for the rant also.


    and seriously any advice/views are greatly appreciated


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 468 ✭✭snowy2008


    what exactly is the problem, you just seem to be on a rant, your parents are two grown ups, im sure they know what they are doing


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Yeah, honestly? It's not your job to worry about your parents finances, and neither is it your job to parent your brothers. Your parents can run their life how they please... you don't live there, and unless they're supporting you, it doesn't affect you whether they have money or not.

    It's also extremely ungrateful of you to go to your parents - who spent the past 20 years supporting you and bringing you up - and tell them they're not doing a good enough job, or putting in enough effort.

    Also, bit of empathy wouldn't go amiss. Your Dad has obviously worked all his life to build up his business and support his family and you're telling him he's being lazy? And while you seem to look down your nose at your mother doing "homemaker" things, that's no mean feat. All very well you telling her to get a job - who'll take care of your 8-year old brother then? As for her not working full-time since the kids were born - if she had a part-time job, she in fact had two jobs. One as a full-time mother and homemaker, and a part-time one as well. How dare you belittle that, actually.

    Sorry if this seems harsh - but you just sound completely ungrateful.


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