What to do?

LegacyUser

to cut a long story short, i know a girl who has a kid to this fella. he was giving her x amount of money and has now decided to give her less, saying he has been cut to a 3 day week. thing is now though, this fella is currently going through a mortgage application and is more or less waiting to sign the papers to push the mortgage through.

deep down, i want to contact whoever i can and inform them that this fella is obviously now suitable for giving a mortgage too as he is now on a 3 day week, and more or less for being a pr!ck of the highest order to the girl throughout. if he doesn't have his hash then he takes it out on her and the kid. the kid likes going to his Dad's as he has some nice friends in the area, the bond with his dad isn't really there.

i like to see the decent thing being done here, and genuinely believe that this mortgage is wrong, if he can't pay enough maintenance for his kid, then how the hell can he go ahead with a mortgage which will last twice the lifetime of his kids welfare.


am i being out of order for even thinking of putting paid to his application, i know i will get honest answers on here. how do i scupper his plans and see the right thing happen here????

Acoustic

im guessing you fancy this girl

my advice

dont stick your nose in where its not wanted , not ur problem so forget it

Permabear

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redout

Bollox to that. Go and report the bollox. I had a similar situation with the sisters ex who wouldnt pay any maintenance because his thinking was "sure the state give you your monthly lone parent - rent allowance !" The truth was he is a dead beat who still lives at home and is in his early 30's. He works in a deadend job and lives from paycheck to paycheck which he blows every weekend on beer, smokes and drugs. He took out two loans totalling €30,000 a couple of years back to buy a Subaru Impreza and struggles to pay it back. The prick took out the huge loans yet couldnt support his own child ! He valued a car over his child. He was reported to the social for not paying maintenance and when they contacted him the smart bastard wrote them in a letter claiming he was paying and that was the end of it

Mr Benevolent

Stay out of it. You're better off leaving it up to her. You really don't want to be stuck between them if things get messy.

LegacyUser

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to cut a long story short, i know a girl who has a kid to this fella. he was giving her x amount of money and has now decided to give her less, saying he has been cut to a 3 day week. thing is now though, this fella is currently going through a mortgage application and is more or less waiting to sign the papers to push the mortgage through.

deep down, i want to contact whoever i can and inform them that this fella is obviously now suitable for giving a mortgage too as he is now on a 3 day week, and more or less for being a pr!ck of the highest order to the girl throughout. if he doesn't have his hash then he takes it out on her and the kid. the kid likes going to his Dad's as he has some nice friends in the area, the bond with his dad isn't really there.

i like to see the decent thing being done here, and genuinely believe that this mortgage is wrong, if he can't pay enough maintenance for his kid, then how the hell can he go ahead with a mortgage which will last twice the lifetime of his kids welfare.


am i being out of order for even thinking of putting paid to his application, i know i will get honest answers on here. how do i scupper his plans and see the right thing happen here????

stay out of it. it is absolutely none of your business.

anyway, if he was paying a court ordered maintainance and his hours were cut back in work so that he was now earning less than he previously had been, then the judge would lower his maintainance payments to suit his new lower salary. so even though you may not be happy with him paying less than he was before, his financial situation has changed and therefore he would be entitled to have the amount revised.

just be thankful he has a job and is actually paying maintainace. he could lose his job altogether and then your friend would get the bare minimun maintainace. or worse still he could be a total deadbeat who just doesnt bother paying maintainance at all.

but regardless, it is still none of your business.

IvyTheTerrible

It's none of your business. Let them sort it out between them. Seeing as you are only getting her side of the story, I'd be careful before you go "reporting" anyone.

cock robin

Dude you should mind your own business. If you have feelings for this single mum, then by all means look after her, but not by seeing yourself as some sort of shiny knight.