3rd time?

LegacyUser

I have a question any would appreciate feedback.

I'm a guy. Bumped into girl used to know end of last year. Used to fancy her but she had bf. She said I should call her when she got back. I didn't, coz i did not read much into her asking me to call her, but she got my number and we got texting. We met for a chat one night. It was fine, but nothing great, basically it was just ok. I left it at that and when telling someone else they said it definetly means that she was interested. I'm very slow, I know. I text about going out again and she said ok. But now i have txt twice about goin out and she had excuse twice that she could not, such as another thing to go to and exams. Same friend again told me I had done enough in asking twice and it's now up to her. Should I leave it or text a third time? I am leaving a gap of weeks between asking!

hussey

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I have a question any would appreciate feedback.

I'm a guy. Bumped into girl used to know end of last year. Used to fancy her but she had bf. She said I should call her when she got back. I didn't, coz i did not read much into her asking me to call her, but she got my number and we got texting. We met for a chat one night. It was fine, but nothing great, basically it was just ok. I left it at that and when telling someone else they said it definetly means that she was interested. I'm very slow, I know. I text about going out again and she said ok. But now i have txt twice about goin out and she had excuse twice that she could not, such as another thing to go to and exams. Same friend again told me I had done enough in asking twice and it's now up to her. Should I leave it or text a third time? I am leaving a gap of weeks between asking!

Once is easily forgiveable, twice seems like avoidance.
Let her get in contact with you, personally I would try to forget her, and if she asks you out well and good if not, move on.

But I would suggest you ring her rather than text if you do decide to get in contact. that was there will be no room for misinterpretation

LegacyUser

I have seen this many times before. Some girls like to be desired, if you ask again you are showing that you are confident, and are willing to pursue her. Life is short my friend, and you have nothing to lose but a lot to gain, the answer is easy...

LegacyUser

Thanks for replies. Some conflicting advice but it's good to get opinions. I will stew on it for a week and then I will call!

tbh

why not say something like "i'd love to go for a drink, if you want to meet up just let me know when you're free and we'll take it from there."

dblennon

Both pieces of advice are valid, but you have not read the situation well.

I mean You can't tell wether she is interested?? If you felt the first date was average, you can bet your ass she thought the same.

but she did get in contact after!! in my experience they don't if the date didn't meet there expectations.

If you think you can pull off alot of self confidence on the phone, call her and say that you have a great idea to do something on thursday, is she in?

this is not easy but "nothing ventured nothing gained" BTW it had better be original. Don't be afraid to tell her if she asks, after she has agreed to come.

eg. take her to play tag rugby, go karting, etc