Concerned about possible HIV infection

LegacyUser

Hey folks,

So I'm an inexperienced male twat of monolithic proportions for having engaged in unprotected anal sex with a guy I met at the weekend. Anal insofar as he pushed hard between all the while (not against my will btw), but got nowhere of course as I'm the tightest-assed guy/twat going. You couldn't get a biro up there.

I fully appreciate how pathetic I have been, how disrespectful I have been to myself, and indeed to others who aren't/weren't blessed (touchwood) with a young healthy body. If ever there was a wake-up call for a first experience, this is it. I feel utterly drained.

Nonetheless, I would like to know if HIV risk is at least reduced in such a barely-penetrative scenario - I cannot find anything about it. The guy was tested a few months ago and was clear, as some meagre consolation (but has been with at least one other in the interim), but anything that eases my very worthy punishment of waiting until September for a test is much appreciated. I was also wondering about the PEP drug mentioned above and if it is commonly administered at St. James's or similar clinic (I know this is not a medical forum - just wondering about standard practice). It doesn't seem to be agreeable in terms of side-effects or financial cost.

Many thanks

Zaph

OP, I've moved your post to a thread of its own. Please don't resurrect old threads in future, start a new one instead. Thanks.

Nevyn

Only way to know the odds is to talk to a health specialist in the area and then only way to be sure is to get tested.

PCPhoto

I dont think you would have anything to worry about - but you will have to get tested anyway - as a safety precaution. (if this guy is willing to have unprotected sex with you - he's done it with others...and you only have his word that he's been tested and found negative)

Go get tested.... seek medical advice (goto your doc or one of the STI clinics)....next time...."dont be silly - put a condom on your willie"

or his - whatever !!!

tbh

Unreg Concerned wrote: »

Hey folks,

So I'm an inexperienced male twat of monolithic proportions for having engaged in unprotected anal sex with a guy I met at the weekend. Anal insofar as he pushed hard between all the while (not against my will btw), but got nowhere of course as I'm the tightest-assed guy/twat going. You couldn't get a biro up there.

I fully appreciate how pathetic I have been, how disrespectful I have been to myself, and indeed to others who aren't/weren't blessed (touchwood) with a young healthy body. If ever there was a wake-up call for a first experience, this is it. I feel utterly drained.

Nonetheless, I would like to know if HIV risk is at least reduced in such a barely-penetrative scenario - I cannot find anything about it. The guy was tested a few months ago and was clear, as some meagre consolation (but has been with at least one other in the interim), but anything that eases my very worthy punishment of waiting until September for a test is much appreciated. I was also wondering about the PEP drug mentioned above and if it is commonly administered at St. James's or similar clinic (I know this is not a medical forum - just wondering about standard practice). It doesn't seem to be agreeable in terms of side-effects or financial cost.

Many thanks

stop beating yourself up about this. It happens. Get yourself checked, and the next time you're about to score, and you don't have a condom - it will happen again - remember what you're going through now.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone for your replies. Yes him doing it with me and therefore suggesting with others, is my greatest concern - especially someone of his (older) age and experience who should know better. (Forgot to mention earlier that he didn't cum in me btw).

I spoke with a delightfully helpful and pleasant Health Advisor over the phone from St. James's who provided some level of reassurance for such a case, and who also noted that PEP is available in 3-day courses and is commonly administered after sexual accidents such as tears etc. She suggested still attending an STI clinic this evening to get further clarification on the risk level from a healthcare specialist and get the other tests done for what it's worth. So botty swabs et al here I come

Thanks again everyone and will keep you posted if it's of help to others.

LegacyUser

Just an update. Got a full screening done at the Gay Mens Health Project on Haddington Road. All extremely streamlined and efficient, if the odd lengthy wait between councillor, doctor, nurse and healthcare advisor. But extremely well managed. Took three hours in all and it is free.

The doctor immediately put me on a course of PEP, which almost guarantees protection from developing HIV, but only about 85% effective in my case as it's been a couple of days since I was exposed to risk. It's very effective up to three days. Got all the other tests done too including throat, penis and anus swabs, blood and urine, which was all rather stressful when you see them accumulating. Disussing the PEP was definitely the most upsetting though - it's all about risk management relative to level of exposure. It wrecks your head thinking about it.

The Project only issue PEP in a small three-day dosage - I have to go to St. James's for a full month's prescription in a couple of days. Both clinics share many of the same staff. Once you go on PEP, the 'window period' also alas jumps to six months, with the usual three-monther still taken as a preliminary indicator. Side-effects of nausea, headaches and diarrhoea are commonplace...

Anyway, thanks for the advice everyone. I'm extremely upset about this, but there's nothing I can do but wait...

AARRRGH

I can understand your concern, but considering he didn't actually penetrate you, and he did not ejaculate, combined with the fact that it's not that easy to catch HIV, I think it's likely you're going to be just fine.

Don't beat yourself up - what you did is human, just try not to put yourself in the same situation a second time!

Clueless09

hey i just wanted to say i hope you'll be ok x

RossFixxxed

I guess there is 2 things to take from this (oo eck!)

1) Use protection
2) Always seek the earliest medical advice with ANY issue you may have.


Best of luck OP, hopefully this is just a silly mistake and you'll live and learn!
R