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What will become of me?

  • 02-06-2009 09:47PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    I'm 33 male. Over the last couple of years Ive seen most of my peers move away or settle down while I roll from one weekend to the next remaining single despite loads of one night stands along the way.
    I dont necessarily think there is anything wrong with being single at 34 however I'd like to meet someone, settle down and share life with. TBH I'm sick of being the only single one at family functions etc.
    Up to a couple of years ago I never had any probs hooking up with girls but that appears to be changing as I get older and put on some weight (stone overweight) Every couple of weeks I say I will stay off the beer, lose a bit of weight get fit to get confidence back etc but then as I am single I feel I am missing opportunities by sitting in, its a Catch 22 situation.
    I have tried dating websites to no avail.

    Anyone else been here and how did set abut making changes?


Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 252 ✭✭STUBBORNGIRL


    WEll Davie there is no fast way of getting a girlfriend only to keep putting yourself out there - the more women you meet the more you can determine what exactly you are looking for in a woman!! im not sure having lots of one night stands is the way to go about it though! What happens after these one nights - is it your choice not to get in contact with those girls again or is it theirs?? Just wondering!

    Also being overweight by a stone is not an excuse so stop it now! i am overweight and i have no problem getting men lately - its all about confidence - you have to believe in yourself - As a woman, i surely want to date a confident man - not someone who moans about being overweight and having issues! perhaps this is something to work on! Although i too am single and dying to meet someone I know that it will happen when its meant to happen! you have to kiss a lot of frogs/miss piggys to find the prince/princess! So get over the fact that you have a stone to lose! if it bothers you that much join a gym - i cant see how you have to sit in to lose weight - if that was the case all our pubs would be filled with overweight grotesque men!! (oh the thought :) )

    Anyhow being single isnt all that bad - Good luck to you in your Journey!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    maybe stay in a weekend, detox and take ur dating online! huge in new york where i spent a few years and online (in ireland) is where i met my boyfriend and happy out!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Basically (and I found out the hard way...) you've gotta love yourself before anyone else will....

    Loose the weight, become more outgoing, feel confident in yourself, dont appear desperate to find love.................do those things and and it will come along when you least expect it..

    Ask any girl what is a very attractive feature in a man????? Confidence.....

    I dont mean be a big head but just be confident in yourself....

    Online dating can be good..but you will need the confidence to back up what you've said online once you meet up...

    Best of luck with it !!


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