i hate my job and it's destroying me. help!

LegacyUser

Ok, i've been in my job 8 months now and each day it gets worse. I think from the very start i never really liked it but seeing how things were, i sticked with it as i needed the money. Now though, i go in every day and get physically sick in work because i hate it that much. I have experienced headaches, nausea and just plain depression while i'm at work and these are continued right through the evening when i go home because i know i'll have to get up at 7 am the next day and feel the same.

I'm only on a contract and it was supposed to be 3 months, i got another 3 month one when that was up. But since april, i have had nothing, no contract renewed. I have a feeling they are going to let me go at some stage and i wish it would be sooner rather than later as i am going nowhere here.

I went to the doctor 2 weeks ago about the headaches and he didn't seem to care. He checked my eyes which were fine. He just put me on difene, hoping they'd go away. I know they are caused from work. Maybe not from using the computer 8 hours a day but just the stress of hating my job and not being able to find another one in this climate.

I know the area i'd like to get into eventually is horticultural farming but i mainly do it as a hobby at the moment. My dad has acres of land waiting to be used in donegal and i feel like packing it all in and going there to start afresh but i have little savings and will have no income.

Ideally, i'd take any sort of work in this area for even minimum wage. I'd do courses on welfare payments in the area if it would mean i'd get more experience in it and grow with what i want to do.

But now i am just so annoyed with myself with where i am. My bf also just lost hus job so i'm going to be supporting both of us if he can't find one. He's not keen on packing everything up to move up north but he said he'd consider it when we have more savings and i have more experience in the area.

I dunno whether i should go to the doctor again or see someone but surely there is something better i can do that be stuck in here making myself sicker each day.

The fact that's it's not busy makes it worse and they don't even need me. It's a boring, repetitve office job and i'd rather be outdoors learning new things even if it does mean less money.

Could i ask them to let me go? Cos surely if i quit, i'd be in a much worse situation? Who should i turn to?

Any help appreciated.

CDfm

Unregistered wrote: »

Could i ask them to let me go? Cos surely if i quit, i'd be in a much worse situation? Who should i turn to?

Any help appreciated.

OP you work for money and not because you like it and you seem to just be feeling down for unspecified reasons.

Whether or not the way the job is done is to your liking is utterly immaterial.Try not to think deeply about it.

Yours is an hello give me the money goodbye job.

No need to feel depressed about that.

If your contracts ends and you get the dole then ok but strictly speaking you should not get benefit if you make yourself unemployed. Yopu seem to be worried about whether the contract will renew and that unsettles you.

Try to pretend you are enthusiastic even if you are not.

Dont think so deeply OP and it will be more bearable.

AARRRGH

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It's a boring, repetitve office job and i'd rather be outdoors learning new things even if it does mean less money.

Office jobs can be great fun if you have friends in the office.

Could you make an effort to develop relationships with your colleagues?

lisajane

I feel for you. I am also stuck in a job i hate. I don't know if it will make much of a difference, but have you tried setting yourself some goals, like saving money to get up and leave. Set yourself a deadline and tell yourself you'll end up in farming.

I have been here also, crying how much i hate my work. As much as i would love to get up and drop everything now, it doesn't make much sense financially. The only thing that is keeping me alive are my goals. I want to go back to college to do veterinary nursing in sept 2010. I was in debt and i am clearing them and cancelling everything i don't need. I hope to start some serious saving. And i have just got myself some volunteering work which i love which will stand to me cause i haven't had any experience, just a love for animals. I even got myself some veterinary nursing books which i read through to make a start.

So if you think positive, it'll happen.

KillerShamrock

CDfm wrote: »

Yours is an hello give me the money goodbye job.

No need to feel depressed about that.

Try to pretend you are enthusiastic even if you are not.

Dont think so deeply OP and it will be more bearable.

Every reason to be depressed about that there is no satisfaction in it, its a meaningless task that you have to do everyday that is soul draining and honestly demoralising.

Pretend to be enthusiastic thats like pretending to enjoy being poked with a cattle prod, if you dont like your job dont hide it and dont pretend to be anything about it. Its not healthy to bottle things up

AARRRGH wrote: »

Office jobs can be great fun if you have friends in the office.

Could you make an effort to develop relationships with your colleagues?

Yes they can be great fun with friends but no matter how many and how much fun you have with them it will never change the fact your unhappy in your job it might help you bare with it a little longer but in the long run it wont do much and friendships could be affected if you hate your job.

Im sorry for being dark and grim but imho its the harsh truth if you hate your job get out!!!! recession or not jobs/money come and go but your physical and mental health will be a lot harder to get back if they start getting affected. No job is worth your health.

Im in the same boat i despise my job with a passion tbh its getting to the point where i would happily take the company down if i could :mad: i wake up thinking of every possible way not to go in, ive lost sleep knowing i have to go in in the morning ive started to feel sick because of it. and well i realised its not worth it.

Like lisajane said im setting goals to get out im looking up every possible way to get out and asap. do the same and it will get easier knowing that every day can be one step further from the job you hate and one step closer to doing something you love

cafecolour

http://www.wwoof.org/

Get some experience before you try doing it for yourself

Darragh29

You'd be surprised OP how many people are in the same boat as yourself and a lot of them have yet to work out why they are so unhappy. At least you know the cause is your job...

I was the same as you once, I hated my job, then I thought the problem was the actual job and I left there and got another job, then I hated that even more because my manager was a pea balled manipulative little c*nt that didn't know the first or last thing about management...

Then I realised that all along, I was suited to self employment, I worked hard and I had developed a habit of learning from my mistakes which is a very useful skill if you are working for yourself. I was always a good communicator and could kind of "go at things", so I threw caution to the wind one day and I swore to myself that I was DONE being the gully/lackie that I was working for as*holes, so I started up my own business and I made an utter b*lls of it the first time, so I took a two week holiday to clear my head and went back out on my own again and never looked back!