What to say to him

Lorrs33

This may be moved to Relationship Issues, I'm not sure which to post it in. A close friend of mine has been with his girlfriend for around eight months now, they're planning to go to Bulgaria next week. He texted me on Saturday night, revealing that they might be splitting up. She cut him off for a few days, claiming she needed to get her head around some stuff. Now she's crying, telling him she doesn't feel any connection with him. This morning, he told me she wants to spend more time with him because she feels distant, even though they seem to spend a lot of time together as it is. He picks her up from work, stays over at her house most nights.

He's not in a good place. He admitted he's been putting her before him and he doesn't know what to do. All I could say was that he needs to start thinking about himself, what he wants. I advised him to tell his girlfriend how he's feeling. I don't know if that was enough. I do believe that his girlfriend is messing him around a bit, and I know him well enough to know that he will cling to this relationship until she calls time. He's done it before, he's such a sweet guy, he would never be the one to end it.

Does anyone have any suggestions on this?

lolli

I think its best to just leave well enough alone. Its not your business, let them sort out their own relationship. You can be there to listen to him but don't get involved in someone elses relationship.

Rb

I agree with the above, it's not your problem, I presume they're both adults so leave them sort it between themselves.

LegacyUser

I also agree with other posters, It sounds like its near the end anyway. I presume they are both young and to be honest its part of growing up... Best leave it to themselves to sort out.

grizzly

It will work itself out. People need to get themselves in these situations in order to learn from them.

limklad

Two things here,
1/. she is playing him, sucking him in to responding to her every crisis luring him to be her emotional slave.
or
2/. She is very insecure with herself and distance herself emotionally.

It hard to tell from your post. Right now I recommend is to listen and not to act or interfere in their relationship as it will backfire on you.

cock robin

Just think of their relationship as a movie. You can see the plot unfold, feel the emotions, witness the betrayal. But your not the director or the producer and there is nothing you can do to alter the ending. However much it hurts to hear this you just have to let them at it.