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Cancer and HIV

  • 31-05-2009 10:07pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I found out yesterday my mam has cancer and is being operated on next week to remove the tumour - its localised I was told, so she should be fine - but it's still cancer....

    I then met a friend for lunch today and he told me he has been diagnosed with HIV ! I feel like a small part of my world is collapsing in around me and I can't breathe. I want to cry so very much and the tears don't want to come - Yet the pain in my chest is so acute I can't physically breathe

    I am in shock and numb and the person I am supposed to lean who is supposed to support me basically said - Ah sure thats life - I shouldn't get to upset - he always knew there was something wrong with my friend :-(


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  • #2
    af_thefragile
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,171 ✭✭✭af_thefragile


    Hey, i can understand it might be really tough for you.

    Bout your friend who kinda blew it off by saying its just life, well, sometimes people don't know how to react and what to say in these situations and so your friend probably felt best to avoid it... you can't blame him too much though. He might just be pretty shocked himself too.

    About your mom, i'm sorry to hear that but as the tumor is benign and localized, the prognosis of that is really good and your mom should be fine soon after the operation. You need not worry too much about it.

    About your friend, well... that is pretty tough but then again its not the end of the world. Some people still manage to cope with HIV really well so i guess its always best to look at the bright side of things. Hope is a good thing.

    This must be a really tough time for you. But you've gotta try to stay calm for your mom and your friend and stay positive. It'll give your mom and your friend some hope too and make them feel better too.

    For yourself, it'ld be good for you to speak to someone too to lighten the burden of your chest. You could do that here or with someone you know. Sometimes you can gain a lot by talking to strangers.


  • #3
    Dave!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 27,857 ✭✭✭✭Dave!


    Just be a rock for your mother and your friend

    They're the ones with cancer and HIV, respectively

    All you can do is support them


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