The joke is over

LegacyUser

Hello, i work in a small boring office with a group of people. Its grand but boring. Which is why we all need to pass the day somehow. I don't mind joking, i don't mind having a laugh, i don't mind being the subject of a joke because i know most of the time they're only messing.

There is a joke that has been going around now for a few weeks. Some lad decided to do some match making for myself and another fella. The usual type of thing, trying to get us together. Often reading to much into things like sitting together at lunch is like we should be a couple. It was a joke which i laughed off at first but said nothing to this fella about wanting more. I only said "they're only joking". My problem now is i think it has gone on long enough.

A couple of things has happened over a few weeks which i some how think this fella is beginning to take an interest in me or something. I don't know, maybe i'm reading to much into it. Which of course, i don't want anything to do with him.

He is a man in his late 20s that acts like an effing 12 year old boy. He comes up and pulls my hair. Wtf? Name calling but not in a nasty way. He went off and got the office a couple of ice creams one day, he handed everyone their ice cream and decides to throw the ice cream to me and saying "here, **** face" and the whole office saw it too. For an ice cream i didn't ask him to get in the first place. (to say the least i threw it back at him). And now he is invading my personal space far too much. He will often come up to me and pat/slap/playful punching me on my arm, shoulder or back.

Some one else mentioned that he might be interested. I have been keeping my distance and avoiding him but he finds me. And that said, i still have to work with him, so there is much i can hide but i have been keeping everything to a minimum, i only approach him about work. I have told the others to stop with the joke.

What should i do? I don't want anything to do with a man that acts like he is 12 and having his first crush. Has anyone any views? Am i reading too much into this?

Toots

If his behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable, then you should take him aside and politely ask him to stop. Don't make a big deal of it, just calmly explain that you don't like having icecream throw at you, and having your personal space invaded. If he has any sort of cop on, he'll realise that his behaviour is not on and will stop. That'll also probably send the message across loud and clear that you're not interested in him, so hopefully he'll leave you alone.

JonathanAnon

Work situations can be awkward like that. Will be hard to come out of this one without looking like you cant take a joke. I think you will just have to play along with the joke, but in your interactions with him, leave him in no doubt that you are not interested. And tell him to stop hitting/slapping you, seriously tell him to fcuk off if he does this again.

Abi

jokenotfunny wrote: »

Hello, i work in a small boring office with a group of people. Its grand but boring. Which is why we all need to pass the day somehow. I don't mind joking, i don't mind having a laugh, i don't mind being the subject of a joke because i know most of the time they're only messing.

There is a joke that has been going around now for a few weeks. Some lad decided to do some match making for myself and another fella. The usual type of thing, trying to get us together. Often reading to much into things like sitting together at lunch is like we should be a couple. It was a joke which i laughed off at first but said nothing to this fella about wanting more. I only said "they're only joking". My problem now is i think it has gone on long enough.

A couple of things has happened over a few weeks which i some how think this fella is beginning to take an interest in me or something. I don't know, maybe i'm reading to much into it. Which of course, i don't want anything to do with him.

He is a man in his late 20s that acts like an effing 12 year old boy. He comes up and pulls my hair. Wtf? Name calling but not in a nasty way. He went off and got the office a couple of ice creams one day, he handed everyone their ice cream and decides to throw the ice cream to me and saying "here, **** face" and the whole office saw it too. For an ice cream i didn't ask him to get in the first place. (to say the least i threw it back at him). And now he is invading my personal space far too much. He will often come up to me and pat/slap/playful punching me on my arm, shoulder or back.

Some one else mentioned that he might be interested. I have been keeping my distance and avoiding him but he finds me. And that said, i still have to work with him, so there is much i can hide but i have been keeping everything to a minimum, i only approach him about work. I have told the others to stop with the joke.

What should i do? I don't want anything to do with a man that acts like he is 12 and having his first crush. Has anyone any views? Am i reading too much into this?

You have two options here, one is to talk to him directly and number two is to go straight for the juggular and report him.

He obviously thinks he is the 'BIG I AM' and does as he pleases, regardless of what price others have to pay. At his age he should know better. I'd say hes that fond of himself he will try to pass of your concerns as unfounded and 'oh thats just me' etc, and the next minute he'd go off and have a laugh with another collegue at your expense. I'd have no qualms whatsoever reporting him to his superior, that should shut his face.