I have a serious dilemma and need some help

NineIronWonder

Ok so i was happy with my girlfriend until recently. A new girl started in work a couple of months ago, approx 6-8, and i have kinda fallen for her. However this is where my problem is,

The girl from work i get on really really well with since the beginning, we are both only working to keep going this job is merely a stop gap not a career. This girl is confusing however because she seems to me to be the flirty type but then we'd never be out together as we live in different areas. Her behaviour i think is most confusing, in work we are always together and we chat about everything. She got my number from a coworker but wil only text me after i text her. She has tried to assess my thoughts of her when i avoided she decided that she 'didnt care anyway' but then said she thinks 'im cool but in denial of her being great'. She has also confessed to dreaming about me but wouldnt say in what way. Then in work she would tell me when she thinks another guy is hot and will constantly ask me who i find attractive or what i think is attractive in a girl. She also throws alot of compliments to me about my body etc. and came to my defence on occassion. In the office things have been a bit more playful recently aswell, it was hard to explain how her name and some hearts got on my arm, she also believes that she could have me if she actually wanted to. Is this just her nature and how she generally is or does she actually like me? I have a serious crush on her,

So this is my problem i believe its probably best to break up with my girlfriend? but would should i do with this girl from work?? Is she interested?? I have a serious problem here and im actually completetly lost???

legend365

This is a crappy situation alright. Been there myself.

If you love your current girlfriend and i mean actually love her and she loves you, i dont see why you'd give that up for this girl whos flirting with somone who already has a gf.

In the end you could end up with nothing.

ManOfMystery

Am I having Deja vu or was this posted before?

Anyway, I think you have 2 issues you need to think about here.

1) Why are you with your girlfriend? Do you love her? Are you happy with her? It doesn't sound like it from the post above; in fact, it sounds like you only mention her as an afterthought if anything. Regardless of what is going on with the girl in work, you shouldn't really waste your g/f's time if you don't want to be with her.

2) Girl in work sounds like a player to me, but you'll not know unless you ask her directly.

wicklowgal

First off, to me it sounds like u are 12 year old kids. Have u no thought whatsoever for your current girlfriend??? How long have you been with her?? Would she be annoyed to find you've been flirting with this girl from work?? What you're doing is selfish, you need to decide whether u still love your girlfriend first and want to stay with her. If you don't, then come clean. She deserves the truth about the woman in work.

As for the girl in work, her behaviour is so childish that I couldn't believe she's seriously into you. It sounds to me like she's leading you on. She wants you to fancy her and instead of just asking you out she's behaving like a child and flirting with you to encourage you to like her, and hey it's worked!

kmick

Serious problem - No. Selfish dilemma - Yes.
Just dump your current girlfriend and get it on with the new one. I mean thats what you wanted to hear right?

Silverfish

Considering the amount of threads you've started about this girl, I would recommend you break it off with your girlfriend asap.

Its unfair the amount of flirting and obsessing about this other girl you are doing behind her back.

It definitely sounds like the girl from work is interested. There's no point being in a relationship with someone if you have feelings like this for someone else, you could be missing out on something amazing.


Life's too short. Break up with the girlfriend, wait a while, and ask this girl out.

snowy2008

definatly dump your girlfriend, she deserves alot better than you, could you imagine how horribly hurt she would be if she read this? just switch places for a second, how would you feel if you loved her but yet she was obsessed with another guy, it would make you feel small and totally unloved and rejected so yers, id definalty finish it with her and let her meet someone who will love and respect her in return

LegacyUser

OP, you sound just like my ex. It turned out that he liked another girl for months before breaking up with me, but was hedging his bets and made sure it was going somewhere with her (spending a wkend with her!) before ending it with me.

Don't be a coward, end it with your girlfriend now before you end up really hurting her.