Never in a Photo

LegacyUser

Hi,

Just quick Problem ive been with my Gf 3years very happy love eachother to bits!

Just one Problem it shouldnt bother me but it does kinda she basically has her Room floor to ceiling with Pictures shes stuck to the walls of everything from Debs to weddings to Holidays nights out etc! she keeps adding to these regulary she will need more wall space at this rate!.

The Problem is im not in any of them not one Single one i mean we have been going out 3 years been abroad a couple of times on Holidays i just think its strange im not in any she says she loves and speak the world of me to her mates im just confused why i wouldnt be in any of these photos same can be said for myspace & facebook.

Any Ideas am i over reacting or is this strange!

Thanks
Unreg.

Otis Driftwood

Is it possible she is keeping them in an album exclusively of yourselves?

wicklowgal

You need to talk to her about it. Just ask her why there's no photos of you on her wall or anywhere! It is strange as you would be such a big part of her life now after 3 years. Do you spend enough time with each other? Or does she spend all her time with her friends?

onemorechance

That does seem odd, but I'd guess it is because of a reason which not negative.

hepcat

Thats a bit odd , as you are both happy and in love. She surely has a few pics of you by now. You'll have to ask her though.

meditraitor

She can see you anytime, it probably never occured to her to put one up.

Not so strange,

If its wreckin your head say it to her or just bring some blue tack with you next time and stick one up.

LegacyUser

OP Here

We see eachother about 4 or 5 Times a week and spend most of our time together we are a real lovey duvey couple! i just dont understand it she has pics of everything else even her ex's i think il stop putting pics of us up on myspace and just put myself up as my profile pic & remove her from my phone wallpaper she if that sparks a reaction!

I just would just like for there to be pics of us for everyone to see i mean is she ashamed of me for people to see i dont know how to approach this incase its nothing!

GigaByte

It does seem strange after 3 years that she doesn't have any pictures of you? Just ask her and see what she says.

shellyboo

Unreg777 wrote: »

OP Here

We see eachother about 4 or 5 Times a week and spend most of our time together we are a real lovey duvey couple! i just dont understand it she has pics of everything else even her ex's i think il stop putting pics of us up on myspace and just put myself up as my profile pic & remove her from my phone wallpaper she if that sparks a reaction!

DON'T do this. Be a grown-up... ask her. Two wrongs don't make a right - you're creating problems in your relationship by playing stupid childish games like this.

Unreg777 wrote: »

I just would just like for there to be pics of us for everyone to see i mean is she ashamed of me for people to see i dont know how to approach this incase its nothing!

That is ALL you need to say to her. In fact, here's an idea. Go find a lovely picture of the two of you - get it printed out and framed. Wrap it up and give it to her as a lovely present for no reason. Just simply say; "I noticed you didn't have any pics of us up, so I got you this one. I'd love it if you put it in your room so you can think of me when I'm not there".

No need for confrontation or an argument. If there's a reason she doesn't want pictures up in there, she'll be weird about putting it up and you can talk about it then.

994

maybe you're a vampire?

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myusernameis

maybe she thinks she will freak you out/she would look obsessive if she puts your photos all over the place, though as someone else said probably would be better just to talk to her and clear it up.

murfie

I find it hard to believe that you cant just ask her why there is no pics of you on the wall!!
You are going out for 3 years, you should be able to talk about anything after that length. Ask her!

LegacyUser

Thinking about it I haven't got any pictures up of me and my wife on facebook etc.

This is mainly because one of us has to hold the camera to take a picture and I don't like my friends photo's of us

She mentioned it once, so I put some of her up that I had taken. Nothing to do with not wanting to be with her, more that I see her all the time so don't feel the need to be reminded of her all the time.

IanCurtis

Unreg777 wrote: »

i just dont understand it she has pics of everything else even her ex's

I'd be having words pronto.. Pictures of her exes on her walls??!?!

That is well dodgy

Dardania

IanCurtis wrote: »

I'd be having words pronto.. Pictures of her exes on her walls??!?!

That is well dodgy

I disagree. The people you met in the past are part of what shape you now

Oryx

Shellyboo above has hit the nail on the head.

Apart from that, heres a thought on how it might be:

My friends, mates ex's and acquaintances are heart on the sleeve stuff, people I like but its part of my public face. I can display them as an aspect of me I dont mind people seeing.

Someone I love to bits might be different. Something I keep personal and private and dont want to display in the same way I use my other images as a social tool, because its deeper and closer to the real me.

I dunno anyway, ask the girl why. It doesnt need to be a confrontation.

Nervous Wreck

Oryx wrote: »

It doesnt need to be a confrontation.

Agreed. "How come there's no photos of me up?" said in a positive tone will get you your answer without causing a row.

BraziliaNZ

you're her boyfriend, she sees you all the time, you two have your own relationship maybe she just doesn't associate it with her little wall maché. I've never kept pics of girlfriends in the past, don't fret about it, you're getting on like a big girls' blouse

Ooodilally

What on earth is she trying to do to you having pics of her exes and not you?!

I wouldn't care how I came across by bringing it up, it isn't really right in my opinion.

Bottle_of_Smoke

It's quite odd. Facebook could be explained by her being afraid of losing harmless attention from other guys but I don't know why she'd have none in her room.

I'd make a jokey comment about it to see her response. "I notice I'm completely absent from your wallpaper of photos"

I''d say part of her is just hanging on to the notion of singleness/being young and having photos of you would be a nail in that coffin. I don't think its anything to worry about though, something everyone does in their own way