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Strange end to first date - what to think?

  • 26-05-2009 10:28pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    OK, so met a girl the other night for a drink, had met her before very briefly, very randomly, never kissed or anything like that

    spent the night chatting away, we're clearly very different types of people but in a way that made it a lot more interesting. It came to the end of the night 1 am-ish, I'm walking home in vaguely her direction. I do (clearly) go a little out of my way home to walk her home. As we get vaguely near her place she just takes a quick turn off down a street and mutters something along the lines of "well this is me here" or something...not even a "goodbye" or
    "seeya around" or
    "it's been nice" or
    "never want to see you again you crazy psycho and don't come a yard closer to my house....!"......

    Nothing, not even a peck on the cheek...after about 4 hours of chat in the pub, just the 2 of us, and with that she had disappeared into thin air

    so I'm walking home then a little gutted (not that I'm definitely head over heels with this girl but would have liked to meet her again and see what happened)

    then the text came though "thanks for a fun night..blah blah..".then some comment about something we had been joking about

    then I started thinking that TWICE before now I've gotten the "thanks for a great night" text and it was the last time I ever saw the girl - well one of them was emigrating back to Australia so not strictly related to me being a disaster area

    do you think if a girl just legs it after a date like that there can be ANY chance?

    I did reply to that text and she replied in a very non-committal way

    since then I texted her and she replied back in a long text ending in a rhetorical type question

    sorry for posting here, just venting really, and that's what boards is for - the over-analysis when the simple answer can be had by just asking - but I don't want to hear the answer!

    I know the way to definitively find out is just to ask her, am just putting off the inevitable of consigning another potential relationship to the scrap-heap *sighs*


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  • #2
    prinz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 ✭✭✭✭prinz


    Sounds to me she was extremely nervous about getting to her place...... is it a kip for instance, does she live with her parents? does she invite you in for the clichéd coffee - or does she not........ etc etc. Give the girl a chance


  • #3
    Seraphina
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,875 ✭✭✭Seraphina


    yeah, tbh if you don't know eachother too well she was probably a bit nervous about you knowing where she lives, as she doesn't know if you're a psycho stalker yet or not! :p i would be careful about letting guys walk me home after a first date, just because there are some strange strange people out there...


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Probably would have been best not to walk her home to be honest.

    You may see it as being the perfect gentleman while she may have seen it as either
    (a) he's expecting to be invited in or
    (b) he now knows where I live..... he could just call around anytime and I don't know him from Adam.

    But hey, if she referenced something you'd been talking about in her text well, I see that as a good sign. And if she sent a long text, that's also good.

    Text her with something like:
    "I'm free this Friday - you want to meet up for food/drinks?" - if she comes back with an excuse then fogedaboutit (depending on how much chancing you are willing to do) but if she says "no, but Saturday would suit better" then bingo.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP again, thanks for the replies,
    no she doesn't live with her parents, in a very slightly dodgy part of town though - hence my offer, I wasn't expecting to be invited in at all
    Seraphina wrote: »
    yeah, tbh if you don't know eachother too well she was probably a bit nervous about you knowing where she lives, as she doesn't know if you're a psycho stalker yet or not! :p i would be careful about letting guys walk me home after a first date, just because there are some strange strange people out there...

    this is a fair point...I don't know what sort of psychos she's been out with in the past!

    sure we'll see what happens...

    I'm out of town for a few weeks anyway so can't try to meet her, which maybe makes it a bit more difficult - will get in touch with her and suss it out later on though


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