Going On Holiday Alone

LegacyUser

I'm just wondering if going on holiday alone is a good idea when you've been having a hard time. I've gone through a break up, I've no job plus I've to move house and at this stage its difficult to cope so I'm thinking a break might do me some good but I've never gone on holiday alone and I hope it wouldn't make me feel even more lost than I feel now. I've just been feeling so down and need some peace in my mind.

Any opinions would be great. Thank you.

Xiney

Nobody can say for sure how it will affect you.

However, it could give you confidence that you can go it alone. You can also learn to have fun by yourself again, which is nice when getting over a relationship.

LegacyUser

have been in the same situation as urself...just out of a long term, no job (quit but ended up company folded anyways), facing living back at home....my life wasn't where I wanted it to be basically.

it was the best thing to happen to me, you meet a lot of different types of ppl, it helps u figure out what you like/dont like in friends and in urself, what you want out of life and you just have fun for a while, no stress or worries.....certainly 'real' life such as career etc didnt really click home till after i came back

but there are intensely lonely parts, you feel real down, like you want to shut urself away...but often its cos ur around ppl u just dont click with, once u realise that and so long as u make sure to keep making an effort to do the akward 'stand alone at teh hostel bar' thing, its easier to cope, and when ur home and back to real life, it gives u so much confidence...maybe ur life hasnt been going well cos ur putting ur effort in teh wrong area/wrong ppl....

travelling alone is the only way to do it...no compromise, no commitments, no plans..and u end up meeting the best ppl that way. do it, it's a recession, u'd be a fool to stay if u can afford to leave

Queen-Mise

very short comment. Your never really alone with internet and phones.

No problem checking in with ppl once or twice a day.

Choose your location carefully. I had lots of fun in brugges by myself. I can be chatty when i want and ended talking to lots of diff ppl.

Doing tours keeps you in company all day. After that you'd be happy with next day to yourself.

Overheal

After you've appreciated the aspect of safety while travelling alone, the rest is really just an exercise in building character, tbh. Personally I love traveling alone. No better time to allow yourself to just Be Yourself.

Abi

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm just wondering if going on holiday alone is a good idea when you've been having a hard time. I've gone through a break up, I've no job plus I've to move house and at this stage its difficult to cope so I'm thinking a break might do me some good but I've never gone on holiday alone and I hope it wouldn't make me feel even more lost than I feel now. I've just been feeling so down and need some peace in my mind.

Any opinions would be great. Thank you.

Go for it, I've travelled alone. I enjoy it because I gives me time to sit back, take stock and clear my head. I dont doubt that when you get back you will be in fighting form again. As Overheal said, be safe but enjoy!

winking weber

It can be really great. One thing I've found useful is to plan a holiday around an activity I enjoy and then go it alone for a bit when I've gotten into the swing of things a bit more.

But I'm the kind of person who does better with some structure. I'd tend to mope otherwise.

Eve_Dublin

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I'm just wondering if going on holiday alone is a good idea when you've been having a hard time. I've gone through a break up, I've no job plus I've to move house and at this stage its difficult to cope so I'm thinking a break might do me some good but I've never gone on holiday alone and I hope it wouldn't make me feel even more lost than I feel now. I've just been feeling so down and need some peace in my mind.

Any opinions would be great. Thank you.

Hey OP...yes, you should. It's a great idea. I went travelling alone after breaking up with an ex and I met loads of lads and ladies travelling alone doing the same thing...they'd just broken up with exes and were travelling for long and short periods to get them out of their system. It works a charm, believe me! Change of location, having nothing around to remind you of your ex, a new place to explore and lots of hot, exotic men to keep your mind of it...it worked for me anyhow.

Can I suggest staying in a hostel (for example, maybe go to Spain for 10 days and stay in a hostel in a city centre)...easy places to meet people and everyone is up for going out, seeing the sights and having a laugh...plus i'm guessing you're a bit broke at the moment so they're the cheap option. Everyone else will be on a budget too so it could be the way to go for a lady in your circumstances.

Hostels are great for meeting people and after the initial few hours of feeling awkward about approaching people, you'll get over that. Everybody wants to meet new people, that's why they're there so maybe head to the hostel bar your first night, grab a drink and just get chatting to someone...you'll find loads of people in the same situation and are dying for a chat. Do a bit of research online first to find a good one...try www.hostelworld.com to read reviews and book the hostel. I've always had good experiences in hostels...people who travel tend to be friendly and sociable and of all age groups.

Most importantly, travelling anywhere alone, even for a short time, gives you heaps of confidence...if you can be independent enough to go somewhere alone and manage to have a good time, you should be proud of yourself....many, many people wouldn't do it. It proves to you that it's absolutely okay to be a single lady/lad and that you can handle it. Everyone who I met travelling or holidaying alone admitted that it was the best way to go. No compromise, no arguments...just freedom to do whatever the hell you want.

I think it's a great idea! Go for it!

Edit: Just to add, after the break-up, my confidence was shot; I'd virtually none left so I was as apprehensive as you. Sometimes you have to do these things without thinking or else you'll think yourself out of it and find a reason not to go. Just do it...

Dr.Sanchez

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Do it, it's a recession, u'd be a fool to stay if u can afford to leave

Agreed, I'm flying out to Australia in two weeks time... Alone!

daftdave

00Blaine00 wrote: »

Agreed, I'm flying out to Australia in two weeks time... Alone!

there are lots and lots of people in australia that travel alone , ive met people that are travelling together in australia and decide to split up and go with people that they have met in a hostel , some people travel alone , meet friends , end up renting property together and find jobs , socialise together , you will only be on your own for a day or 2 in australia and nature takes over and you chat away to people and off ya go !.

edit...by splitting up, i mean a group of lads splitting up...not a couple..... sorry if i confused anyone.

LegacyUser

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I'm just wondering if going on holiday alone is a good idea when you've been having a hard time. I've gone through a break up, I've no job plus I've to move house and at this stage its difficult to cope so I'm thinking a break might do me some good but I've never gone on holiday alone and I hope it wouldn't make me feel even more lost than I feel now. I've just been feeling so down and need some peace in my mind.

Any opinions would be great. Thank you.

Join www.couchsurfing.org, great for meeting people in random places.

LegacyUser

Without a shadow of a doubt YES.

I came out of a 5 year relationship, felt trapped, lost and had an urge just to get away from everything. Against the will of my mother I headed off on my own to various parts of the world. I was nervous at first- I was afraid that nobody would want to talk to me. I told myself if I didn't like it I could come home whenever I wanted.

But I didn't come home for 3 months . It was the most refreshing thing I have done. I visited some great places and saw some amazing things, I did whatever I wanted when I wanted and I met all sorts of wierd and wonderful people.

People were very welcoming towards me. People seemed to think I was great for going on my own. That in itself boosted my confidence. Even one or two people in small groups quietly told me they wished they had spent some of their trip travelling on their own!

Go for it.