My gf is a headwreck

x in the city

I posted a thread about her before and her obsession with cleaning, well seems like this has run its course now

I have not met her since february/march and was due to visit her in june.

so she says her ex is back in town and she is going for a dinner with him to celebrate his new job. she told me she hates him and i said you can go if you want but say no if you really dont want to see him etc.

so today she mails me .

Hey there,



it got a bit late yesterday and I went to bed straight away. And I’m sick today and staying home.



Are you there too? Should we msn .>?


so i replied............


hello there

are your allergies getting [up your nose..] :$..
i sent you a sms yesterday, did you get it. ?

im a bit busy now, have to fill in these forms and go and mail it soon....
so

i will be back later, why dont you rest and take some green tea..?!

see you later


............

then i get this back.

Right. I just wanted to tell you that I don’t want you to come in june. Or ever.



And no, I didn’t get your sms.

!!

wtf.

I was a bit insensitive with my joke about the allergy as she seems to be always sick.. she is getting some procedure in the autumn for her allergy.

crazy

blah

So what's the problem? Sounds like she's saved you some trouble.

Latchy

Not only sensitive to allergys but over-sensitive to any form or humor which it seems , she has taken as criticism.

maxxie

ah ya dont need that dude! forget her!

Id love to see her reaction if you really insulted her! Shes probably one of those birds that chops dicks off :eek::P

ManOfMystery

You should reply totally calmly "ok, thanks for letting me know xx" ......... she would probably love to see you getting worked up over it

onemorechance

does she use www.boards.ie?

Greyfox

ManOfMystery wrote: »

You should reply totally calmly "ok, thanks for letting me know xx" ......... she would probably love to see you getting worked up over it

Perfect advice, she's definitely looking for a reaction!

I went out with someone just like her befor, breaking up with her was the best thing I ever did...but doing so is very hard as for some reason this unpredictability and how quick she could change her mood was the very thing that had me attracted to her...I always found it hard to decide wheter I'd rather s*** her or strangle her!

Liam Byrne

Don't even waste the 10c.

And if you ever meet her, say

And no, I didn't get your sms

LegacyUser

Sounds like she wants an excuse to get with her ex if by chance she feels inclined when she meets him, and is looking to have a "we were broken up" reason in the meantime when she crawls back to you.

Get the fcuk rid OP.

cafecolour

Maybe she took the 'up your nose' as a veiled drug reference and reacted badly to it?

I'd lose her if this is her normal sort of behaviour - very high drama. What exactly was keeping you with her?

Wibbs

If this isn't a one off glitch, or she was having a bad day, she's a drama queen. Don't second guess yourself either, it was an over reaction on her part. If she lacks the insight to see it was a bit of gentle humour, or ribbing and this isn't the first example, then it's a red flag. Is she excessive emotionally in other maybe nicer ways? Overly attached and excessive romantically kinda thing? Fell in love overnight etc. That's harder to spot as a red flag because it feels like strong love and affection.

She sounds like one of those people who needs excessive emotional stimulation and if she doesn't get it in a healthy way will create or invent situations to get it in an unhealthy way. It's not the type of emotion, just so long as its emotion. Common enough too. Avoid.

If you don't you'll spend the relationship putting out one emotional fire after another, with little resolution. She'll get her emotional "fix" and you'll be run ragged.

doncarlos

Sounds to me like she hooked up with the ex last night and is breaking up with you rather than tell you the truth and have you break up with her. Sorry bud