Getting it right?

Shy Girl

Well i'm an 18 year old girl

My problem is that i've a new boyfriend and sure i'm mad into him and all like, but i'd never really had a boyfriend before and i'm not great at doin the sex. Like I've never had sober sex and i can count the number of time i have had it drunkenly. Weve been goin out a month or so now and havent had sex coz My problem is that i dont wanna be drunk but i dont wanna make an eeejit outta myself either. See hes 24 nd he is a nice guy, but i dont want it to be boring for him ya no?


any help would be appreciated . . . .

Mrs JackDaniels

I think you need to grow up a hell of alot if you are going around having sex drunk and not being able to remember it. Very dangerous and very childish imo. Also I think a six year age gap at your age is alot

Mr. Incognito

Practise makes perfect

Otis Driftwood

OP,everyone is nervous when sleeping with a new partner for the first time.Try telling your B/F about your insecurities,Im sure he will be understanding.If you arent at the stage that you can talk to him about sex then maybe you should hold off for a while.If he is a good guy he wont mind waiting.

dlambirl

Mrs JackDaniels wrote: »

I think you need to grow up a hell of alot if you are going around having sex drunk and not being able to remember it. Very dangerous and very childish imo. Also I think a six year age gap at your age is alot

Six year age gap isnt bad at all but what is stupid is having drunken sex. Just tell your boyfriend how you are nervous and i'm sure he'll understand.

Slow Motion

Mrs JackDaniels wrote: »

I think you need to grow up a hell of alot if you are going around having sex drunk and not being able to remember it. Very dangerous and very childish imo. Also I think a six year age gap at your age is alot

The point of this forum is to help and advise where possible. Not to have a go at someone who is looking for that advice, if you have nothing useful to say, say nothing!


OP As was said, just explain to your boyfriend that you are not experienced and are nervous! I think if he is any kind of man at all he will understand and be supportive and do his best to ease your nerves!

prinz

This is your first boyfriend, I suggest you put your effort into seeing how a relationship works, and how you interact together and put the sex on the back burner for a while.

My advice is keep your knickers on for a while. You're only going out a month and you feel you've been putting it off? Ever feel like you're jumping into it a little?


On a side note I would be a little concerned with the age gap.

Mrs JackDaniels

I think a six year age gap at 18 is alot, I don't think it's a big deal at all the older you get

dlambirl

Mrs JackDaniels wrote: »

I think a six year age gap at 18 is alot, I don't think it's a big deal at all the older you get

Well I'm in a relationship with a six year age gap and it never once caused a problem. The girls 18 and in all fairness boys at 18 are still fairly immature IMO.

Evil-p

I think sex is something you should progress too and if you take it slowly and work up to it by kissing and foreplay it won't be a case of feeling nervous because it should be natural and enjoyable for you at that stage! You are assuming he is experienced at 24 years old but you really don't know, having multiple lovers does not make you good in bed!!

However don't forget safe sex no matter what!

P.S. Sober sex is way better than a drunken fumble!!!

Leane00

Just wait until you feel as if your able to talk to him about whateva worries you have. I'm in a similar situation with an age gap like yours, but I've spoken to my bf and he totally understands and is cool about it. I'm sure your bf will be the same if he's a nice guy . . . .

Shy Girl

thanks guys, i tink i may hav phrased it wrong tho, im not planning to start having sex wit him for a while, jus coz were goin out dont mean we gotta do it pworryin over nothing nd now ranting thanks tho