Blushing

LegacyUser

Hi i am 23 and i have always been shy and get embarassed easily but in the last year or so it has gotten much worse and its really getting me down. I cant talk to anyone without blushing, if anyone says anything to me or about me i start to blush. People in work have started commenting on it and that makes me even more paranoid, i feel like such a loser because sometimes i wouldnt even be embarassed and i blush anyway. Is it something to do with my skin or that. I actually hate going into work because of this. Would hypnosis work? Has anyone tried it and where could i do it?

LegacyUser

I'm in my forties & all I can tell you is that it does get better with age! I had a really bad blushing problem when I was younger and I allowed it to take over every aspect of my life back then, which I regret. However as I got older (& presumably more confident in myself) the blushing subsided. I do still blush on the odd occasion but it's fairly seldom now. I know it's easy to say but dont dwell on it & dont let it stop you doing things. Comment on it yourself in a lighthearted way before anybody else says it & then it's dealt with.

LegacyUser

I had/have the same problem, what really annoyed me was that when I was aware I was blushing I would become embarassed which would make me blush more, and make me embarassed more to the point where you could fry and egg off my cheeks and I'd begin to even sweat! I've managed to deal with it. Accept it as being part of who you are and once you learn to accept it (i.e. feel you need not be embarassed about it) it no longer becomes an issue for you. The blushing will always be there but will never be as bad because you will no longer be embarassed about it. It's a sign of healthy skin and be thankful that you'll have a very young looking complexion when you're older, so be positive about it.

TheGreenGiant

Hi there. Yep I have the exact same problem. I work at the weekends behind a till, so I'm dealing with customers the whole time. Suddenly out of the blue I can feel my face warming up which is the blushing. then when I try not to think about it, it gets worse and I feel such an idiot, especially if its a nice looking girl its driving mr nuts, and like you, it has gotten worse. Would love to know of some way to shift this embarrassment!

LegacyUser

I have the same problem too. I do feel the more confident you are in yourself the less likely blushing will occur. The only way i can see to deal with it is to improve on whatever aspect of yourself which you dont like.
I get this alot especially in the past year or two. Working on tills or anything else where i feel alot of attention is on me. It could be a group of people im with and one of them makes a comment about me, just having a laugh but no i'll start to blush. It can happen from alot of different things but they usually involve me being uncomfortable in myself for it to happen.
The conlusion that i came to was that it was/is all in my head and alot of it stems from my low self confidence. So if i work on that then my problem will bloody DIE!

Hope this helps. At least you not alone.

LegacyUser

As i was reading this post i thought i wrote it have the same problem,and theres hardly a day at work that i wouldnt blush,and still theres no real cure for blushing,and like someone mentioned just try to accept it

LegacyUser

ok...i may be able to help. The root cause of your blushing in my opinion is your SHYNESS so you need to work on becoming more confident and relaxed when your talking to people.

This is easier said than done!....i'm sure you have tried to overcome it yourself and have failed. The reason for this is because the solution is a paradox. what you think will cure it is more likely to make it worse. it is counter-intuitive

For example, anticipating your blushing before it actually occurs or trying to fight it will only make it worse. Putting pressure on yourself not to blush will also not work. To over come it, you will need to focus externally i.e way from your inner feelings, get rid of any anticpatory worry/anxiety you may have by exercise/focusing on something else, practice some cognitive (mental) statements, stop beating yourself up when it does happen and trying to stay calm in these situations.

All the above methods are used by psychologists in cognitive-behavoural therapy. This is highly recommended for people who have problems with shyness/anxiety. I can recommend some free personal CBT that could be useful to you if you like.

Despite what you might read off some internet websites, hypnotherapy such as pure hypnoanalysis is useless for problems like this.....and i have first hand experience!