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Unrequieted love or just foolishness?

  • 24-05-2009 6:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey long story short,Over a year ago I was seeing this girl.I was really fond of her.For whatever unknown reason I decided to end it.Anyway fast forward to the here and now and she is now seeing one of my best friends.Nothing too serious but he occasionly sees other women when were out.I have really fallen head over heels for her again.The thing is she is still bitter with me over the way things ended.I don't see this thing lasting long with her and my friend.

    Do you think there could ever be anything between us again?I mean the thing I'm grasping onto is if she fell for me once their is something she sees in me she likes.We were all out together a few weeks back and it just cut me up inside seeing them together.Im good mates with my friend but I know how he is with women.

    I'd love some opinons guys because this is driving me awol.


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  • #2
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    Sounds like a touch of 'Dog in the manger' syndrome to me.

    You didn't want her until your mate had her. You were 'fond' of her when you had her, all sounds a bit lukewarm to me.

    You broke up with her for no particular reason and now you want her back because she seems more desirable because your mate has her.

    If you really wanted her you wouldn't have let her go in the first place, for reasons 'unknown'.


  • #3
    lehcar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36 ✭lehcar


    Agree with OTH.
    Unregistered wrote: »
    the thing I'm grasping onto is if she fell for me once their is something she sees in me she likes.
    My experience with women is they 'move on' easier and more emphatically than men do. So if you've crossed her line, it's unlikely she'll consider you again, despite what she likes about you.

    The only positive--if it can be called that--I see for you is that she's seeing your friend. That could be a tactic to make you jealous and get you back.

    If the possibility of getting back together does arise, I strongly advise an open and honest chat beforehand. You probably recognize you messed her up, you need to own that and apologize for it. If she's manipulating you back, that needs to see air too before it continues as an unhealthy guilt trip laid on you.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies guys!

    Lehrcar bang on!I did try to make peace with her not too long ago.I put it on the table And more less said I'm a p#ick for ending it the way I did.At the time I didn't mean it as a way of trying to get back with her,I was geniunly so sorry how I made it go down.She then hits me with the line that it was her who ended it.She's very strong minded so i guess she didn't want to lose face by admitting it.


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