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ex boyfriend advice needed

  • 24-05-2009 5:40pm
    #1
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭


    my ex broke with me 7 times cause he thought i didnt love him - he always thought i wasnt that into him. He broke my heart and i did love him - maybe i didnt show it but i said it. anyway - he has said recently he wants to get back with me again - we are broke up with about a year now. What would everyone else do? My friends and family would be against it as they said he messed me around alot.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    What do you want to do?


  • #3
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Personally I'd run. He doesn't have an issue with your feelings for him, he has an issue with his self-confidence. Until he gets that sorted, he'll never be able to be in a stable relationship, nor will he ever be able to be stable in a relationship (see what I did there? ;)). Don't waste your time, OP. You'd be asking for another dumping.


  • #4
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    i do love him but i know he might dump me again. i know i didnt spend much weekends with him and stuff. he thought i was with him for the sake of it and he said he didnt want to be in a one way relationship so he had to end it. he said he always loved me but thought i didnt love him.


  • #5
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    just a bit of extra information - we have being sleeping with each other the last year too.


  • #6
    aoibhebree
    Closed Accounts Posts: 467 ✭✭aoibhebree


    scarymoon1 wrote: »
    My friends and family would be against it as they said he messed me around alot.

    To be honest, if you've lost sight of your own judgement, it's not a bad idea to follow the advice of your friends and family because they're the ones who care for you and are solely looking out for your best interests.

    I'm not saying they'll always be right - but if they're wrong, and it's meant to be between you and this lad, it'll happen in the future when you're both ready for it.

    The best thing you could do is make a clean break - no more contact - and concentrate on the rest of your life. Once you're happy with yourself and your own life you'll be better able to make decisions on whether he's good for you - and vice versa.


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  • #7
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    i am moving away in a few months so i suppose that will be the break. I hate the thought of not seeing him but as i say to myself - he wasnt too bothered about seeing me the last year other than sleeping with me!


  • #8
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    if one of you guys were in my position - would ye get back with this guy?


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Have you been sleeping with him while going out with Mr Y?


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