Eating Disorder

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this. Basically me and my most recent gf broke up a few months ago. We didn't talk for ages but we are back friends now and she told me she has an eating disorder there and couple of weeks ago. She said I'm the only one she can talk to about it.

She said she throws up after eating because if she doesn't she doesn't feel right with herself. In the last week or so before she told me she said there had been blood in her sick. I advised her to go see a councillor or something but she point blank refused.

I was wondering is there anything I can do for her or convince her somehow to get help because I am very worried about her.

Thanks in advance,

MysticalSoul

If she is throwing up blood, she needs to go to a doctor asap. Throwing up blood could be a sign of something more serious going on. Unfortunately, apart from letting her know you are there if she needs to talk, there is very little you can do. It may be worth your while checking out Bodywhys though - www.bodywhys.ie.

Mac Masters

Well the best way to get them straight is to tell them of the consequences of it, such as:
– Electrolyte imbalances that can lead to irregular heartbeats and possibly heart failure and death.
- Electrolyte imbalance is caused by dehydration and loss of potassium, sodium and chloride from the body as a result of purging behaviors.
– Potential for gastric rupture during periods of bingeing.
– Inflammation and possible rupture of the esophagus from frequent vomiting.
– Tooth decay and staining from stomach acids released during frequent vomiting.
– Chronic irregular bowel movements and constipation as a result of laxative abuse.[/LEFT]
– Peptic ulcers and pancreatitis.

It's the last one they should be most worried about most especially if their throwing up blood!

LegacyUser

Is there any chance that this is a desperate cry for attention from you? Did she take the break up badly?

Abi

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Going unreg for this. Basically me and my most recent gf broke up a few months ago. We didn't talk for ages but we are back friends now and she told me she has an eating disorder there and couple of weeks ago. She said I'm the only one she can talk to about it.

She said she throws up after eating because if she doesn't she doesn't feel right with herself. In the last week or so before she told me she said there had been blood in her sick. I advised her to go see a councillor or something but she point blank refused.

I was wondering is there anything I can do for her or convince her somehow to get help because I am very worried about her.

Thanks in advance,

If there is genuinely blood in her sick, she needs to see the doctor ASAP. She is bullimic, and this puts her at risk of rupturing her stomach, which can be fatal.

I've thought about this a little, and if it is a cry for help so to speak - I think I'd give her a little tough love just to see how she responds. Tell her that you are glad she told you, but you cannot be friends with her, unless she goes to a doctor about this. She has put you under a lot of pressure by telling you this, and by refusing to go to the doctor it is very frustrating for you. You could offer to go with her, to make sure that she does. People with an ED go to great lengths to conceal their illness, so don't accept loose promises from her.