Bad times

LegacyUser

Hey all,
Im 20 and from the North, Currently doing part time work with the TA and having severe money problems. I cant find a job and with my p/t work im probs not elidgeable for governmental help. I am living currently with my mother and her partner. They own a small business which hasnt weathered the current storm well. This has led to increased tension/more arguments/excessive drinking on their part. They are really making it hell to live here but i cant afford to move.
Im looking for advice really, i'v tried talking to them about the drinking but they just wont listen.

Kevster

Hi,

I don't advise talking to them about their drinking problem at all. What I suggest is that you ask them if they are okay with you staying there for the time being, and then - once you are sure that you are okay to live there - develop a plan for the future to get the hell out of there. it will be tough to live there but I get the feeling that they won't listen to you re: the drinking problem. That's their own problem and you can leave it all behind when you move out.

You might have to consider changing jobs too, if needs be. Times are certainly tough - and they will be tough in the future - but if you get a plan in motion, then things can seem more clear and less uncertain/anxious.

Kevin

LegacyUser

thanks, i didnt really think i could solve this myself as they are both as bad as eachother.
I am applying like crazy but no results so far.
I guess il just have to ride it out

lynnsback

Just to let you know you are not alone on this. I came back here from England a few years ago and have had no luck getting any full time work. I even spent a year unemployed. I have gone to SO many interviews and applied for hundreds of jobs. I now have a part time job but no luck in getting full time. Currently I am also living at home. I am very close to my mam but I would love to have my own place again. I could also see my friends more often if I lived up in Dublin. I have a degree and a masters but it does not appear to help. All we can do is keep trying. Wish I had the answer for us!

Kevster

You just came back from England and I'm just about to go over there (due to lack of work here). Why don't you both consider moving there?

LegacyUser

yeh it sucks alright. On principal i have never claimed the dole but have maxed out my MTD's (military training days) so i either find something or il have no choice.

LegacyUser

why don't you swallow your pride and put your principles to one side and claim the dole for god sake.there's people with alot better jobs than you that have had to do it because it was their only choice

Slow Motion

sonofsteven wrote: »

yeh it sucks alright. On principal i have never claimed the dole but have maxed out my MTD's (military training days) so i either find something or il have no choice.

Squire that is foolish in the extreme! I work and pay taxes and PRSI and one of the reasons I don't complain about it as much as others is that people like you need it to help get back on their feet, I have been unemployed in the past and know what it is like. Now cop on and sign on! You are only making things worse for yourself by not doing so! And seeing as some of it is my money not the governments let me say Use it before they waste it away on some bloody government quango!

lynnsback

You and I have so much in common! I too used to be too proud to take the dole as I felt there were others that needed it more than me. It wasn't until a friend took me to one side and pointed out my future taxes would pay for myself that I relented. He was right and so are the users here. Sign on.

Kevster

sonofsteven, would it be possible for you to join the army 'proper'? That way, you get a reasonable wage and 'free' accomodation. I wanted to join the army many years ago but couldn't due to an illness that I have.

Kevin

LegacyUser

my intentions are to head to sandhurst and go regular. Once there my money problems should end, unfortunately i need to have funds gathered before i go for all the the kit i will require. Im stuck in my hometown currently as my grandmother is very ill and it doesnt look like she will hold on much longer.
Signing on is not possible unless i quit i think so i guess all i can do is just keep applying. maybe someone will take pity on me lol.

Thanks all for the advice, much appreciated

Kevster

No problem. just one more thing though: Could you get a loan to take care of the short-term expenses?

LegacyUser

looks like a loan is the best option.
My granny passed this morning so i have nothing keeping me here anymore.
thanks all for the advice

Kevster

Good lord, sorry to hear about that. You might not want to hear this right now but there really are positives out of every negative. That is the view I take to everything bad that happens to me. Tell your friends of your plans and they may be able to help you out in some way. Do'nt ever try to go it alone in anything.

Kevin

lynnsback

Sorry to hear about your gran.