How do I drop everything and follow my dreams?

sour_apple

I don't know what to write here and i don't know what kind of advice i am looking for but anyway.

I am feeling really down lately. I am stuck in a dead end job with people i hate. When i am in work i just feel like screaming. Some days, i just go home and cry after work. I just hate it so much.

I know what you're all thinking, get the f out of there. If i could, i would be out of there tomorrow. I have been to college already and the only thing i learned was that it wasn't for me, so i got work in something unrelated. That was 4 years ago and i am still there. I don't how i am still there. I have nothing holding me back, no morgage, no kids to support. But i did get myself into a little debt during college and taking on credit cards and a car loan after college.

I have been searching for work for years now but there's not alot i can do when i'm not qualified. Just the thought of a min. wage job and having debts. I just wasn't getting anything.

I have been clearing my debts and i hope to be free from them all in july. So i would love to save for college and go back next year to a PLC college where i wouldn't have the crazy college fees, which i wouldn't be able to afford.

There is a course i am very interested in but how do i drop everything and go back? I love my security. I love to have something for definite. I have been to college already, so i am not entitled to a grant again. I don't think i can even save enough to last me for a two year course. Living expenses would probably be the worst. The last thing i want is a loan. So i guess i would have to do some evening work which i don't mind, but during the recession there isn't alot of work around. There are so much students finishing up soon and they have nothing. I don't want to be one of them.

Is there anyone that has been in the same boat as me? What can i do?

RHunce

ok tbh i dont think you should quit work as it is very hard to find financial security in these hard times.

what you should do is take up a night course and if work hours are restricting you request part time hours etc. you need money and a job to be able to fall back on. hope this helps.

cafecolour

Save as much money as possible.

I know it's tempting to just up and leave the job, but having been there that long gives you some flexibility - maybe they'd work with you so you could go to part time there while you are in school.

hepcat

Hi OP, what do you want to study? Maybe you could try to work, at some level, in a similar area (not easy at the moment I know), and make sure its all you dreamt of. It does depend on what you want to do, but some careers actively encourage would-be students i.e. accountancy.
Night courses are also a good option, and there are a huge variety.

sunnyside

The recession can be a good time to study. You aren't looking for a job immediately, the course will take 1-2 yrs and by then the economy might have improved and you would be in a good position to take advantage of all the new jobs that might be available then.

That's what I tell myself anyway because I'm studying for a career change.

But I have loads of days when I worry that what I'm doing is crazy so maybe I shouldn't even be replying to this thread. What I do know is that the subject I'm studying is so interesting to me it doesn't even feel like work a lot of the time and a job in this area would be my dream job. Find something that interests you and pursue that. With the *current economic climate* it wouldn't be smart to leave your job immediately but if you had a plan to leave in a year or similar that might make the situation more bearable.

Dravokivich

So with how you've got things set, you'll be clear of debt come July.

How sound would you be in September?

Would you be able to work part time on a min wage job as you mentioned your afraid to?

My main thing i'd take into account before doing this, how long did yuo spend looking up this course?

Debt free this summer... work up over the next year with the ability to put more aside...

Hopefully you can be more finiacially sound to do this next year. Not trying to put you off, I'd like to encoruge you to succeed. But if you don't have to worry about your main concern currently, the course you plan to do will be a little less stressfull on ya!

Elessar

Do it.

I was surprised reading your post, as I was in the EXACT same situation last year. I was young (and still am ), in a good well paying job that I absolutely hated, bored me to tears, had zero interest in it, had been to college doing something completely unrelated. I wanted to get out really really badly but I didn't know what to do or where to go.

In July, I stumbled on a PLC college course that was in an area I was already very interested in and tied in with a hobby. I rang the course co-ordinator who told me there were still places for September that year! I worked out travel details and knew I had enough dosh to keep me going for a while, so needless to say, I went for it.

It was the best decision I could have made. I've just finished the course in question and I'll be qualified in a specialist area where jobs are not as badly affected by the recession. The change from the horrible, uninteresting, pointlessness of getting up for a job I hated every morning to waking up at 11 or so most days and driving leisurely to the train station to catch an uncrowded train to college for something stress free that I was interested in was exactly what I needed.

DO IT! There is absolutely no point wasting away your limited days on this planet doing something you hate day in day out. If you can, save as much as possible between now and when your course starts. Could you get a place on the course this September? It could be something to look forward to. Could you cut your expenses, move back home even to do this? Would you have to?

Yeah, you'll have to get used to not having as much money as you do now, but really, it's very easy. I thought I'd hate not having what I did. But I don't.

Really, if you think you can handle it using savings and maybe some family support, do it, absolutely. If not, then save even more until the next course starts. Don't waste your life being unhappy, nothing is worth that. Find a way to make it happen.

Permabear

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sour_apple

Thanks for all the replies. Of course, this course and career change was everything i have always wanted. Why, i never did after school, i don't know.

Its not so much will i get work after the course that scares me. There is work available. But just 2 years of not having any income coming in. I just want enough to get by really. Rent, bills, travell, food. If i have to, il even go camping for 2 years. I have looked at every possible course available and there isn't anything available in the evenings and i have to move away from home for the course.

I would absolutely love to drop everything and go back this september but i do want a bit of money saved and i have nothing now.

I have been looking into the course and i have to have the application in by november, 10 months in advance. So i am going to send it in anyway, so it will force me to save more knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Just sometimes though, i wish i could see that light sooner.

tolteq

sour_apple wrote: »

I don't know what to write here and i don't know what kind of advice i am looking for but anyway.

I am feeling really down lately. I am stuck in a dead end job with people i hate. When i am in work i just feel like screaming. Some days, i just go home and cry after work. I just hate it so much.

I know what you're all thinking, get the f out of there. If i could, i would be out of there tomorrow. I have been to college already and the only thing i learned was that it wasn't for me, so i got work in something unrelated. That was 4 years ago and i am still there. I don't how i am still there. I have nothing holding me back, no morgage, no kids to support. But i did get myself into a little debt during college and taking on credit cards and a car loan after college.

I have been searching for work for years now but there's not alot i can do when i'm not qualified. Just the thought of a min. wage job and having debts. I just wasn't getting anything.

I have been clearing my debts and i hope to be free from them all in july. So i would love to save for college and go back next year to a PLC college where i wouldn't have the crazy college fees, which i wouldn't be able to afford.

There is a course i am very interested in but how do i drop everything and go back? I love my security. I love to have something for definite. I have been to college already, so i am not entitled to a grant again. I don't think i can even save enough to last me for a two year course. Living expenses would probably be the worst. The last thing i want is a loan. So i guess i would have to do some evening work which i don't mind, but during the recession there isn't alot of work around. There are so much students finishing up soon and they have nothing. I don't want to be one of them.

Is there anyone that has been in the same boat as me? What can i do?

Have you considered the OU? Thought a part time degree takes six years. I am half way thru a Physics degree. I woul love to be a physicist. I am going to finish it. I currently have no qualifications or anything.

You can keep your job but get something else going. Like you could do TEFL also. and go off to the bright lights of Dubai. lol.

MojoMaker

All I can say is HTFU. You have the pyschological equivalent of ME.

Pull your head in and crack on with life and stop whining & brooding ffs. Coupla years of real hardship would sort you out.

Victor

MojoMaker wrote: »

All I can say is HTFU. You have the pyschological equivalent of ME.

Pull your head in and crack on with life and stop whining & brooding ffs. Coupla years of real hardship would sort you out.

A bit harsh?

Piriz

hi OP,
where there's a will there's a way! im delighted to hear you've been proactive about improving your life and are aiming to find your path...
the satisfaction you will get out of doing something you enjoy is so rewarding.
Ive been in your position and i've never looked back.. infact i couldnt continue on with something i hated. This will be the best move you could possibly make at this current point in time.. you might be poor financially but your life will be enriched.
I hope you submit a fantastic application make sure you get some people to assist you with it i.e. be sure its as good as it can possibly be to tick all the right boxes..best of luck with it...i bet your self esteem is already on the up!
and if at first you don't succeed....TRY AGAIN! dont give up on this, knowing and having experienced the alternative will surely motivate you along the way!