Miserable at home and no money

Intervention

Hi, I have just returned home from college for the summer. My plan was to get a job and go abroad but things haven't quite worked out as I thought. My old job could not take me back and it is very difficult to find another one. I am looking every day but no luck. The biggest problem is living at home. I don't get on with my parents and my house is a very dramatic place. My friends are working during the days so it is hard for me to get out as there isn't much to do in the town I live.
I am spending most of the day in my room in front of my computer and I some how manage to get in to a screaming match with one of my parents almost every day. I can't stick around here much longer as I am starting to feel miserable. When I wake up in the morning I don't even want to get up and want to keep sleeping. In fact, sleep is the highlight of my day, as weird as that sounds. I am thinking of getting a loan from the bank and just going abroad. Getting work is a slim shot and I cannot stay here much longer.
Has anybody got any advice?

LegacyUser

I dont think the bank are willing to give out a bank loan to a student with no job. it is very hard 2 get a loan these days

mikemac

I've been unemployed right after finishing college and got rejected for a loan.
Wasn't a huge amount either, 1,500euro.

I think you are going to have problems getting a loan

Dexterm99

It's not a smart alec reply but maybe your parents could help you out with a loan so you can get a start abroad. Do you have any friends already working abroad that may be able to put you up for a few weeks?

The fact that you are sleeping a lot (by the sounds of it) might actually be aggravating your parents. You certainly won't find work in bed...

If you have any hobbies, throw yourself into them and maybe get involved in team sports. The exercise will make you feel a lot better and you never know, someone might know someone who is looking to hire you.

cafecolour

You could try something like this for the summer: http://www.wwoof.org/ - essentially farm work in exchange for room and board.

LittleEve

i know how it feels to have lived away from home and found it difficult to settle back in. obviously its tough not having a job and you're prob bored silly and taking your frustration out on them and them out on you. dexterm mentioned a good idea re gettin involved in team sports, do you good to get out of the house and that

taram

Do you contribute to the house in terms of tidying etc? That might be what's annoying your family, mine are always on my sister's case because she just sits in bed on her laptop for 8 hours a day after getting up at 1pm and expects those of us working to cook her dinner, tidy up after her etc.

Make a routine and stick to it, like get up 5 days a week at 10am, go for walks, make plans to meet friends regularly, borrow dvds off friends, see all the classic movies you've always wanted to see etc.

abbey2000

taram wrote: »

Do you contribute to the house in terms of tidying etc? That might be what's annoying your family, mine are always on my sister's case because she just sits in bed on her laptop for 8 hours a day after getting up at 1pm and expects those of us working to cook her dinner, tidy up after her etc.

Make a routine and stick to it, like get up 5 days a week at 10am, go for walks, make plans to meet friends regularly, borrow dvds off friends, see all the classic movies you've always wanted to see etc.

Spot on...if your living at home, you need to contribute to housework, cooking etc. Routine is important as stated above, sitting in your room on a computer all day is not healthy. until you can get funds together to go, you need to make an effort at home. its wouldnt be pleasant for anyone living in that environment, including your parents.

web2crawler

You could try to find a mini job. Better than staying alone at home.

bongo2

What about doing some voluntary/charitable work. You may not be paid for it but it will get you out of the house, you may find it fulfilling and it will look good on your cv

Lollipops23

im in a similar position to you.finished college and i'm only managing to get weekend work at the min,not much but at least it's something!
however,i've managed to maintain my sanity by giving myself at least one thing to do each day; even if it's just cleaning out my car or going to the bank. I was also feeling bad about not being able to contribute housekeeping to my mam,so we made a deal that i'd take on more household chores to earn my keep. Even just the dusting/ironing shows that you're trying and not just sitting around moping! seriously,chin up. keep sending out CVs and keep busy.