Any decent women out there?

LegacyUser

Classic starting line here, I'm going to go unregistered for this one.

Here we go. I'm a guy in his early 20s, I'm about halfway through college. I've got good friends and family and in general I'm a pretty happy guy.

But (There's always a but)... For the life of me I can't find a woman. Now I don't have an issue with chatting women up or anything it's something else. I think I'm a bit odd in this day and age in the fact that I don't want one night stands, I don't want to go out and drunkenly grope some woman I just met but it seems that this is the norm these days.

Are there any women out there that (for the lack of a better description) are a little bit old fashioned? That might want to take a chance to get to know someone instead of going for the instant gratification of and meaninglessness of one night stands.

LegacyUser

I'm a woman and cant seem to find a guy who doesnt only want sex! It seems personality and getting to know someone doesnt happen anymore, but i think its a culture thing. Im not irish and it seems to be mainly here that it happens. The nightclub/ drink culture really....

shellyboo

Bleh - Username wrote: »

Are there any women out there that (for the lack of a better description) are a little bit old fashioned? That might want to take a chance to get to know someone instead of going for the instant gratification of and meaninglessness of one night stands.

Nope, none. Not one. No women out there looking for a relationship at all.


Come on, OP, you know yourself that's not true. You know there are loads of women out there who want more than a one night stand. You know this.

So instead of projecting and blaming women for the fact that you're single, why don't you examine yourself for the reason. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you - I'm sure you're lovely But examine your strategy, where are going to find these women, what signals are you sending out? You get back what you put out, so if you find yourself taking on this persona that drunk women in clubs are attracted to, you're going to attract drunk women in clubs. Do you get me?

Talk to women in bookshops, coffee shops, on the bus, on the LUAS, in college... go to a beers! Expand your social circle and you'll expand your options.

tolteq

Grrr. Its always the club. Well........here is my solution. Forget about the night club. Like the poster above mentioned, I've resorted to the utterly uncouth and hysterically drastic measure of actually talking to some girls on a saturday.

liah

Yup, I'm one.

Just put a little effort into it, you'll be sure to turn something up.

tolteq

tolteq wrote: »

Grrr. Its always the club. Well........here is my solution. Forget about the night club. Like the poster above mentioned, I've resorted to the utterly uncouth and hysterically drastic measure of actually talking to some girls on a saturday.

note: be prepared for plenty of rejection. lol. its hard but you get over it after the first few girls.

LegacyUser

I think the whole drunken/groping/copping off with each other in clubs has been built into us from teenage discos, the amount of alcohol consumed and the loud music, clubs are just meant to be an "adult" version of this.

I am a 21 year old girl, cant find a bloke at all, all clubs are good for is a quick grope/shift/one night stand, only a small percentage of relationships start this way and you may be lucky that this may happen. But clubs don't allow people to hear what the other has to say, first impressions are based on how ur dressed how much make up/fake tan/aftershave etc the person has on them, people dont look like this 24/7 and you dont get to know the real person, I'm just saying that you will definitely have to seek other places than the cattle marts sorry I mean clubs for seeking relationships or the like, thats what I'm going to do from now on, sorry for the rant hope it helps you in some way

PS I do hope ya find someone soon

iHeartRyanAdams

yes i agree.. you have to put yourself out there and go to places where actually nice girls go, ie.. not the ones that leer around night clubs looking for anyone to take home!
think of your own personal interests, music, sport and think of places assocaiated with that and go from there..
good luck!

LegacyUser

I can understand why the op feels like this. I have to agree that meeting girls through your interests is probably the best way to go. I'm a single female who does go to clubs, for my friends and fun, not to pick up disposable sex partners.Although I do talk to men and flirt on a night out and have been suprised that some men are happy to have a conversation and maybe exhange numbers.

Good luck!