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Counselling

  • 19-05-2009 8:57pm
    #1
    FrankyG
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭


    Hi
    I think I need to talk to somebody but not sure who. I am in my early 30's and have been having problems getting and maintaining an erection for ages now. I'm fairly sure it's a mental rather than physical problem and would like to talk to somebody about it. I could go months without it being a problem and then suddenly something clicks in my head and the next thing all I can think about when i'm with my girlfriend and we start to make out is please let it work, please let it work! Obviously the more pressure I am putting on myself the less chance I have of getting an erection. It is really putting a strain on our relationship at the moment and she has suggested I go and talk to somebody about it. There is no way I am going to my GP. Does anyone know of somewhere for sex therapy or counselling in the south Dublin area?


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  • #2
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    FrankyG wrote: »
    Hi
    I think I need to talk to somebody but not sure who. I am in my early 30's and have been having problems getting and maintaining an erection for ages now. I'm fairly sure it's a mental rather than physical problem and would like to talk to somebody about it. I could go months without it being a problem and then suddenly something clicks in my head and the next thing all I can think about when i'm with my girlfriend and we start to make out is please let it work, please let it work! Obviously the more pressure I am putting on myself the less chance I have of getting an erection. It is really putting a strain on our relationship at the moment and she has suggested I go and talk to somebody about it. There is no way I am going to my GP. Does anyone know of somewhere for sex therapy or counselling in the south Dublin area?

    your first port of call should be a doctor, just to outrule any physical cause (and there are a myriad of them).

    after that, if physical causes have been excluded, the doc can point you in teh direction of a counsellor or whoever is most apropriate.

    if you dont feel comfortable talking to your own gp, then change doctors.
    (but, tbh, your gp will have heard this complaint 1000 times before. you probably wont be the only man in teh surgery that day with a similar issue)


  • #3
    sogood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,258 ✭✭✭sogood


    For what its worth, your GP will have heard and seen it all before. Any embarassment is understandable, but is that worth the grief and pressure that this is causing you. Also, if the roles were reversed and your GF had some similar problem, how would you feel if she dragged her heels about having it seen to? You're quite right in thinking that some sort of "performance anxiety" is at the root of the problem, especially if you have spontaneous erections, as in, first thing in the morning when you awake?

    talk to your GP who will then, in turn, recommend you to someone else, a counsellor, therapist or whatever. Talk to him, its all in days work to your doctor and he sees plenty of people in a similar situation. if anything, he will think more of you for having taken some positive action on the matter, as will your girlfriend. best of luck.


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