Unemployed - Bored and depressed

LegacyUser

Hi. I'm a 30 year old single male who's unemployed. I've no kids or any other dependencies. I have a mortgage but the for the moment monthly replayments are not a problem, so I'm lucky in that regard. The problem is I'm bored and sometimes depressed. I just don't know what to do. I'd like to travel but I'm tied down with the mortgage. I've given up looking for work at the moment as there is nothing out there. I don't feel I have the confidnce or character to volunteer. Also I haven't got the frame of mind to be enterprising enough to make my own money. So that's the situation in a nutshell. Thanks for listening. Any ideas are welcome, or if any one finds themselves in a similar situation how do you cope?

LegacyUser

25 Year old female, also unemployed. Some days are ok, some days are really bad. I'm still looking for a job but my self-confidence has taken a battering leaving me unbelievably depressed on my bad days. I also would love to go travelling but just can't because of lack of finances. I've registered to be a volunteer but no word from the organisation after 2 months.

Can you maybe get a few months payment break from the bank just to go away for a while?

The only thing keeping me going at the minute is trying to get fit again, walking as much as possible during the day so I dont have too much time thinking myself into misery. The lonliness is the worst part for me I think, I'm not a fan of having just myself for company. I'm afraid I don't have any helpful advice... sorry.

estar

outside your comfort zone, eg volunteering. something challenging. use your prevous skills

My name is URL

What do you mean by "frame of mind"?

You can do what necessity requires, wash windows, cut lawns in estates. You don't need to be an entrepreneur to make some cash... frames of mind come and go, do what you want/need.

And it's not even about the cash, it's about overcoming your self-given restrictions.

Volunteering requires no moral character, morals don't really exist.. we do what we do, ultimately, to please ourselves... (see --- selfish gene).

Even finding a passtime that brings some goals, get an allotment or use your own garden to grow veg etc, go to the gym, learn to play an instrument...

IMHO, all of this "I can't because I don't have the mindset" is a fallacy. You can do, you just need to overcome yourself first.

btw, I have no job atm. I keep myself occupied through my allotment and volunteering a few times a week at a local homeless shelter, so I'm not looking down on you whatsoever.. I understand completely why people can get into the mindset that your seeing now.

If you'd like any assistance in finding a volunteering initiative, drop me a PM.
I might even be able to find you an allotment dependeing on your location.

Take care

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Find a new hobby - you have the time now to do lots of new stuff. Join the library, take up a night course, learn to play an instrument, write, draw, be creative, read read read, learn to cook, keep fit, watch documentaries, keep your mind active.

segaBOY

It's tough, as previously suggested take up a hobby, volunteer-join a club even?
You'd never know, the more people you meet with similar interests you'll not only feel better but you might even swing a few contacts for a job.

The only thing I would add is even though it is really disheartening applying for jobs when there's nothing there, keep trying. Even set yourself a target like sending out 5 CVs a week or something, just keep getting your name out there-to feel like you've achieved something for the week by meeting a target if nothing else.

Best of luck and keep your chin up, there's always light at the end of the tunnel, this won't last forever and you'll be laughing when things pick up. :cool:

petethebrick

Could you rent out your place in order to be able travel for a year?

FAS Courses are great for this kinda time. Do an easy, straight forward one. I'm just finishing up the "Starting With Computers" course this week, and I really wish it wasn't ending. Fantastic course. It's really relaxed. You just go in in the morning with 19 other people and have a laugh all day. Of course it's awkward for the first week when you don't know anyone, but it doesn't take long before you settle in. I think it's a great course and I'm gonna try getting another FAS course soon.


Worth a shot, at least.

JonathanAnon

All good suggestions here. I would suggest:

a) learn a new skill, preferably one that will help you get employment in the future. This will at least make sure that something productive comes out of your time off.

b) get some form of exercise everyday. the more energetic the better, will help you sleep and make you feel better.

c) Try not to worry about it. Worrying does no good at all. Try to chill out and keep your mind off things by watching TV, video games anything.