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My life is empty

  • 19-05-2009 6:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey all,

    I'm a 25 year old male. I haven't had a job in a year and a half and have no drive to get one. I drink about 6 bottles of lager everyday.

    I can't get myself out of the hole and am completly unmotivated to do anything other than watch tv and internet.

    I know deep down that I want to be normal but cant see how I can be. I dont feel depresed, I dont know what depresed feels like. I just want to not be me right now... :(

    what can I do to improve myself?


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  • #2
    workaccount
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,460 ✭✭✭workaccount


    Well a job gives you a sense of acheivement, confidence and occupies you mind. An occupation is important in a balanced life.

    Trouble is with the economy the way it is now it's harder to get work. What skills do you have?


  • #3
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Routine is a start, less drinking is the next step. Drinking and lounging around all the time won't help your mood any.

    Jobs aren't the easiest to come by at the moment so I understand the lack of motivation there, but you need to keep on top of it.
    What do you want to do in your life - job wise/career etc.

    You can sign up for FAS courses to keep you occupied and better educated whilst you're deciding. You can get out and do volunteer work or join a gym / class.

    Once you start overhauling your life you'll start to feel better and hopefully have a better idea of what you want.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op, You need some love and support to get you out of this, do you have anyone you could speak to?

    You have to start slow and go at your own pace, taking one small thing to do bit by bit will help you get out of the rut.

    Would you see a councilor? there are many free in every area, a councilor is a good support network, I had no one at one stage in my life and my councilor was such a support for me.

    The best thing you can do right now is accept yourself, accept who you are- the more you can bring a positive perception over yourself into your life the more you will gain motivation to change, I was in this place a few years ago, the way out was to love myself better, i just carried on at home doing all the things that was helping me to cope, watching tv and internet etc- when you reject everything in your life you become even more resentful, If you can look around you and appreciate everything you have no matter how small, you will invite another way of looking at things into your life.

    I found the book 'the Secret' great you can get the first 20 mins free on you tube. Its all about how people have turned their lives around from being in a rut.


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