Ex wants to meet - what to do?

LegacyUser

Ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and we've texted 3 or 4 times since. He asked me to call to his house at the weekend "to have the craic". I'm 50/50 about what to do. Part of me knows that I want us to stay friends and keep in touch because he's a good friend but the other part of me is still hurting from what happened and I don't want to feel worse from meeting up. But I feel as though it might help if we can get on. Don't know what to do! Any thoughts??

ellie1

"have a bit of craic" sounds like he is just wanting sex.
I would stay well clear of him until you are over him

Lorrs33

I thought I could be friends with my ex when he suggested it, but the flirting started almost immediately after I agreed. It wasn't nice, and he flipped when I got with my current boyfriend. Being friends with an ex, in my opinion, isn't a good idea. But I could be wrong, if you feel your ex seriously just wants to be friends, then by all means go for it.

LegacyUser

Being friends with an ex can be ok in some rare cases but give yourself at least 1 month for every year that you went out before you see him. That'll ensure that your mind is free from too much emotional influence which could make you seem weak and / or easy in front of him

SunInDublin

If he wants to be just friends then why would you go to his house anyway!!!
Im going thought the same things (few texts here and there) and i have to say "staying friends" is hard stuff, not sure if thats possible cos at some point someone will go out with someone else and then what...staying friends is a way to keep hope that maybe you'll get back together but in the end it rarely happens, just more hurts.
So do as you want but i would recommend not to, as loads of post on this subject have said, "no contact" is the way to go to move on, then, 3 months from now when you're over him and the hurt is gone then see if you wanna meet and be friends but for now it might be too soon, and deep down you probably know it as you are hesitating.

If you do, don't go to his house, meet in a coffee place or someting casual.
good luck!

Miss Fluff

He's looking for no-strings sex OP. This is all very raw for you so I'd avoid seeing him for a while if I were you, you'll only wreck your own head if you see him on this basis.

LegacyUser

So if I decide not to meet him and he texts me to meet him, should I even answer his text?

emigrant36

just tell him you have plans with friends! you have a life that doesn't involve him anymore!

Mimikyu

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