Meltdown

LegacyUser

I feel as though I'm having a breakdown.
My boyfriend broke up with me lately, I'm back living at home, I don't have any friends, I can't find a job (even in a chip shop).
There is good in my life. I'm just finding it hard to see it lately.
I feel so alone. I don't know what to do about anything.
I'm snapping at my parents more and more out of frustration.
I'd like to move away but don't know where.
I've applied to college as a mature person but can't decide anything until I hear if I got accepted or not. But even college isn't exciting me.
I'd like to get stuck in to work. I'd also like to get away from my home town. I can't stand the thought of people pitying me or looking at me and knowing my boyfriend didn't want me anymore and that I'm back at home.
god I know there are bigger problems out there but these thoughts are consuming my every thought.

LegacyUser

Ah there might be bigger problems out there but it dosnt make yours any less significant. Breaking up with someone makes you feel pretty worthless, and you lose your identity nearly.
For a start people arn't looking at you with pity in their eyes, everyone has to deal with a broken heart at some stage, I know its a cliche but you need to get out and keep busy. I broke up with my bf and year ago and although i still think about him every day and i have him on a pedestal (which is the worse thing you can do believe me) i just found making plans for the weekend however small, maybe a drive, a weekend away with some mates and having that to look foward to at least took my mind off him.
Getting away from your home town could be a good idea, its hard when everything reminds you of your ex but running away from your problems wont solve them either they will only follow you!! would you consider travelling for a year? Canda or Oz or New Zeland or something? As far as ive heard there are still jobs over there, its a great way of meeting people, and learning something new about yourself i highly recommend it!! Treat yourself a hair cut a facial whatever you can afford, will make you feel alot better too!!! Have you any friends that have moved away?? Maybe you could go somewhere a friend already is, so they can help you get settled?
At the end of the day, time and all that crap really is the truth, you just need to get a bit of perspective in your life and figure out where do you go from here? is there anything you would have loved but couldnt do while you in a relationship that you could try now?

sunnyside

Unregistered wrote: »

I feel as though I'm having a breakdown.
My boyfriend broke up with me lately, I'm back living at home, I don't have any friends, I can't find a job (even in a chip shop).
There is good in my life. I'm just finding it hard to see it lately.
I feel so alone. I don't know what to do about anything.
I'm snapping at my parents more and more out of frustration.
I'd like to move away but don't know where.
I've applied to college as a mature person but can't decide anything until I hear if I got accepted or not. But even college isn't exciting me.
I'd like to get stuck in to work. I'd also like to get away from my home town. I can't stand the thought of people pitying me or looking at me and knowing my boyfriend didn't want me anymore and that I'm back at home.
god I know there are bigger problems out there but these thoughts are consuming my every thought.

I don't think you want a job in a chip shop anyway. Lots of people apply for every single job they see advertised when the reality is that none of those jobs are suitable for them.

If money/circumstances weren't a problem, like if you won the lotto, what would you do with your time.Try and incorporate some of that into your present life.Volunteer work, exercise, learn a new language.

Other people are too busy worrying about themselves to care much about what you are or aren't doing. If you act like a victim they will treat you like one. Just smile and tell them everything's good.

StormWarrior

I was in a similar situation years ago and I got out of it by moving abroad as an au pair. That way you can move abroad easily, your accomodation and everything is already sorted. It got me out of the rut I was in. Maybe you should consider something like that?