How do I stop this from getting worse

knotabotha

A guy at school has being calling me "smelly" and everyone thinks its funny even tho im actualy a very clean person !!
this name is starting too stick ......
im very bad at come backs any help ???
please give me a come back???????? or its going to stick...

thanks

Lollipops23

how about..."at least i havn't got a knob the size of a tapeworm fúckface"??

RedXIV

you're not gonna like this but best thing you can do? Ignore it.

My nickname for 2 years in school (and some people still refer to me as it now) was Big Gay Hill. No reason, just my mate shouted it at me during a school tour and it stuck. I'm not gay, but people thought it was hilarious. But why should it bother me? I've a girlfriend, she's pretty sure i'm not gay and everyone KNOWS i'm not gay but they still thought it was funny to say it.

nicknames will be passed out during school. thats life. the worst thing you can do? get worked up over it. Don't acknowledge it, don't play into it, and don't go on a retaliation crusade. Sounds bad, but all you gotta do is suck it up.

R.D. aka MR.D

i agree with the above the best thingto do is not let it bother you.

You don't smell right?

well then the next time some one says it or whatever laugh! laugh like everyone is would laugh and say ah good one!

if hes trying to annoy you or get a rise out of you you've instantly defeated him!

it sounds silly but believe me its way better than risking a bad come back or letting things escalate.

A bunch of guys in college a good few years ago used to slag me off and i'd just laugh, they used to call me fat and i'd yeh jesus quick before i eat you.
what they were saying used to cut me up inside. until i found out they thought i was the 'most awesome' girl in the class because i'd just laugh and not get annoyed. and i wasn't fat, they somehow thought it was funny to say i was.:rolleyes:
boys are strange like that!

star-pants

Yup Red XIV is right, they call you it cuz it's funny to them, they get a rise out of you disliking it. Pretend you don't care. And ignore them.

philologos

Do not react. Reaction is a means of satisfaction for the person calling you said name. If you ignore it it will stop much sooner than if you inflame it.

Barracudaincork

I used to get called "rashers" in school due to my ezcema, it hurt at the time, but i ignored them and kept the hurt to myself and beleive me this smart mouth could of said a million things back to them, but i didnt need to lower myself to there level of intelligence.

You dont need to either!

Next time they say it, smile in the inside, as rest assured its only their lack of intelligent and self esteem that is making them do it. Im not saying it will be easy, but do it once and remind yourself that you are far too smart and confident to be bothered my small minds and their thoughts and before you know it, you wont even hear them calling you it anymore.

StormWarrior

I don't want to sound mean, of course they should not call someone names even if they do smell..... but are you absolutely sure you don't smell? When I was at school there was this girl called Nellie who smelt absolutely awful (a very strong smell of grease and BO) but didn't seem able to smell it herself. No-ne wanted to come right out and tell her face to face so someone wrote a note trying to tell her as politely as possible and put it in her desk. Didn't make any difference though because she didn't agree and thought she smelt fine. Of course they shouldn't be bullying you but maybe you do need to look at your personal hygiene a little more closely?

Miss Fluff

StormWarrior wrote: »

I don't want to sound mean, of course they should not call someone names even if they do smell..... but are you absolutely sure you don't smell? When I was at school there was this girl called Nellie who smelt absolutely awful (a very strong smell of grease and BO) but didn't seem able to smell it herself. No-ne wanted to come right out and tell her face to face so someone wrote a note trying to tell her as politely as possible and put it in her desk. Didn't make any difference though because she didn't agree and thought she smelt fine. Of course they shouldn't be bullying you but maybe you do need to look at your personal hygiene a little more closely?

+1, completely agree. Are you absolutely sure your personal hygiene is up to scratch OP? Seems like an odd name to call you just out of the blue.

LegacyUser

Maybe have a serious talk with yer man and say it outright "thats not funny!"

I knew a guy once who did shower every day or so but didn`t wash the clothes all week..

Also it might be stating the obvious but where you dry your clothes might be an issue? Kitchen smells etc. stick to damp clothes...

My bf always smells of food!?!?

dblennon

BTW it's not lowering yourself to get into a slagging match with someone it's a version of comradary.

I was called a particularily nasty one, it was clear that it bothered me when I was about 14, as soon as I stopped rising to the bait or genuiniely giving a sh*t about it it disapeared.

I know another guy who held onto a similar name from the time, that stuck alot longer.

If it's just one person calling you this the majority of the time I find a nice embarrasing truth from their past is a good one to drop
P.S. do very calmly and not reactionary to get the best restults.

StormWarrior

Unregistered wrote: »

Maybe have a serious talk with yer man and say it outright "thats not funny!"

I knew a guy once who did shower every day or so but didn`t wash the clothes all week..

Also it might be stating the obvious but where you dry your clothes might be an issue? Kitchen smells etc. stick to damp clothes...

My bf always smells of food!?!?

Yep or if your house has a strong smell you might be so used to it that you don't notice, and the smell has rubbed off on you?

You say you're clean but that doesn't mean you don't smell... have you ever washed some clothes and then not dried them properly, they end up getting a musty mouldy damp smell, even though they're clean.

Taltos

StormWarrior wrote: »

Yep or if your house has a strong smell you might be so used to it that you don't notice, and the smell has rubbed off on you?

You say you're clean but that doesn't mean you don't smell... have you ever washed some clothes and then not dried them properly, they end up getting a musty mouldy damp smell, even though they're clean.

+1
Or be around smokers - everyone knows that ciggie smell sticks to cloths and hair like glue.

Maybe next time - laugh and just reply "well since I had a shower this morning you must be smelling your own breath - next time try using toothpaste not garlic paste"

edit: Just never ever show they really hurt you - like a big target on your back then....
edit 2: And if they like your response be ready - you might be inviting more so that they get the banter back...

DarkJager

Simple and effectieve response?

"I couldn't be smelling, cause your mother washed me last night"

LegacyUser

Hi Op,

That's annoying to live with, if it was me id pick his worse weakness and try make his stick too, if you have to go down- take him down with you, now what would his be......

davmol

Use one of his/her physical/mental issues against them.Dont worry about how hurtful it is or how cutting it is.You could stay quiet but then you are an easy target and will get more abuse.
Theres alot of adults here which live in a different world to people in school were theyre obviously alot less mature.If you hurt this person once they'll think twice about slagging u off in front of many people.As a previous poster says their nicknames stuck with them for years

Sleepy

Just keep calling him "Tiny" until he stops... do it casually enough and everyone else will join in the joke... Don't wait for him to say anything to you just come out with a 'Hi Tiny' every time you see him. He'll be avoiding you before the week is out

Hman09

knotabotha wrote: »

A guy at school has being calling me "smelly" and everyone thinks its funny even tho im actualy a very clean person !!
this name is starting too stick ......
im very bad at come backs any help ???
please give me a come back???????? or its going to stick...

thanks

what way is he calling you smelly? he may actually like you....i used to torment a girl in school cause i like her lol. i know, these childish ways are so cute but they happen.
but let me kno what way he says it and gimme a scene? thanks

Taltos

Hman09 wrote: »

what way is he calling you smelly? he may actually like you....i used to torment a girl in school cause i like her lol. i know, these childish ways are so cute but they happen.
but let me kno what way he says it and gimme a scene? thanks

You just reminded me that I used to make faces when the girl I was crazy about used to come into the class. She asked me in 6th yr why I did this and never had the guts to tell her.

Even so - if this girl is now being picked out by this prat and the rest of the school - that is not nice. So give him his own medicine

whoami1

I think people are possibly missing the point here. This is how bullying can start. It's not 'just having a laugh' if everyone isn't (genuinely) laughing.