dublin single scene, do you think it sucks?

LegacyUser

long story short... i'm getting fed up with the dublin single scene. met 2 really nice girls in the past 3 weeks, got numbers, and no reply to texts.

i'd be a 9, and would generaly go for an 8 upwards, sorry if that sounds crude... just being honest.

trying to stay positive, and get on with it, but i cant help letting it get me down.

star-pants

You could try calling, at least that way you'd get an answer one way or the other.

Some people hand out their number whilst drunk and when they get a text haven't a notion who it was so just ignore it. Perhaps meeting in a different place might help?

Partizan

fedupguy wrote: »

long story short... i'm getting fed up with the dublin single scene. met 2 really nice girls in the past 3 weeks, got numbers, and no reply to texts.

i'd be a 9, and would generaly go for an 8 upwards, sorry if that sounds crude... just being honest.

trying to stay positive, and get on with it, but i cant help letting it get me down.

Will you ever call the girls. Ring them up, say hi and arrange a date with each. You can then decide which one to pick.

Good luck bro

ellie1

fedupguy wrote: »

long story short... i'm getting fed up with the dublin single scene. met 2 really nice girls in the past 3 weeks, got numbers, and no reply to texts.

i'd be a 9, and would generaly go for an 8 upwards, sorry if that sounds crude... just being honest.

trying to stay positive, and get on with it, but i cant help letting it get me down.

I see you rate them quite high.

Maybe they dont rate you.

Maybe they didnt answer your texts because they only rate you as a three or a two.

LegacyUser

star-pants wrote: »

You could try calling, at least that way you'd get an answer one way or the other.

Some people hand out their number whilst drunk and when they get a text haven't a notion who it was so just ignore it. Perhaps meeting in a different place might help?

would that not be a bit weird?... i mean, if she's not replying, she's not interested... she wasn't actualy drunk, one of the things i found attractive. it's a shame, as i think we'd get on pretty well.

who knows, it's probably a wrong number

Irishpimpdude

Were did you get that rating? hotornot? lol im a 9.4 on there but that doesnt mean i am a 9 lol rating yourself a 9 is kinda weird tbh :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

ellie1 wrote: »

I see you rate them quite high.

Maybe they dont rate you.

Maybe they didnt answer your texts because they only rate you as a three or a two.

well, not with the first one, she's south american, been living here over a year and said i was the first good looking irish guy she's met...

the second, who knows, it's possible... but as i said, i do get complimented alot, so would have to make her standards either extremly high... or she likes short chubby guys or something.

reprazant

Unregistered wrote: »

well, not with the first one, she's south american, been living here over a year and said i was the first good looking irish guy she's met...

the second, who knows, it's possible... but as i said, i do get complimented alot, so would have to make her standards either extremly high... or she likes short chubby guys or something.

Maybe your apparent arrogance and narcissism put them off?

LegacyUser

reprazant wrote: »

Maybe your apparent arrogance and narcissism put them off?

i was expecting a reply like this sooner.

i'm just being honest... i don't come accross arrogant or narcissistic when i'm out, i hate that kind of behavour in women, and don't do it my self.

ellie1

Unregistered wrote: »

i was expecting a reply like this sooner.

i'm just being honest... i don't come accross arrogant or narcissistic when i'm out, i hate that kind of behavour in women, and don't do it my self.

You could be the best looking fella in ireland with a **** personaility.
Maybe your far too good looking for these women!

Maybe you could stop rating people on their looks and start looking for somebody that you get on well with then maybe they would reply to your texts.

tolteq

fedupguy wrote: »

long story short... i'm getting fed up with the dublin single scene. met 2 really nice girls in the past 3 weeks, got numbers, and no reply to texts.

i'd be a 9, and would generaly go for an 8 upwards, sorry if that sounds crude... just being honest.

trying to stay positive, and get on with it, but i cant help letting it get me down.

They might have given you fake numbers. A friend of mine, she says she does that all the time. lol. how rude!

Its enough to give you blood pressure. lol.

look, just keep at it. try and forget about numbers (i'm a 9 your an 8) and crap like that. Forget about chat up lines and stuff like this.

try and just be genuinine.

just think if a woman came up to you in a night clooob and started talking about having children and having a house and commitment you would run a mile. lol. its the same thing when ur comin across sexuual like. forget about sex. focus on getting to know the girl!

MIN2511

Nice thread OP, funny thing is last wk i gave 3 guys my number-all 3 have made contact. Two turned out to be arses! And i am still texting the 3rd. It's a numbers game, keep taking numbers and keep texting-anything can happen

And can all of ye stop slagging him for rating himself... Common, the dude has confidence in himself-nothing wrong with that!

dblennon

RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,RING,

How many times do you think Good looking women give out there number.

99% of the time it's a natural end to good conversation/brief encounter.

You would want to be a very bitchy person to say "no your not getting my No." when someone directly asks for it.

BTW it is one of the hardest things to do, harder than the initial approach so you need balls.

trust me casanova would have been shot down if he was a texter.

Now if I can just follow my own advice and give my Newbie a call!!!!!!

Beth1978

Hey fedupguy
I don't think there's anything wrong with you rating yourself or girls, we all do it when out on the pub/club scene as looks are what people initially go on when in that situation. However if someone started to chat to me and made me laugh, etc then looks are not the be all and end all. I think you would shut down alot of the females if you were to judge on looks alone.

I find the dating scene a disaster to be honest. I'm so shy that I find it hard to talk to guys when I'm out...therefore I don't meet alot of guys. I don't think I'm awful looking but shyness gets in the way. I do know though that if I was attracted to a guy who asked me for my number and I gave it to him.....that I would definitely reply to the text. P.S. I don't think it matters if you text or call...I think texting for a bit at the start is a good way to get to know each other, then maybe follow it up with a call.

Sorry if I went on for a bit there but I just wanted to say to you don't give up...I haven't given up yet and still hope to meet Mr. Right...you have to stay positive! If I can be of any other help just yell.

LegacyUser

Beth1978 wrote: »

Hey fedupguy
I don't think there's anything wrong with you rating yourself or girls, we all do it when out on the pub/club scene as looks are what people initially go on when in that situation. However if someone started to chat to me and made me laugh, etc then looks are not the be all and end all. I think you would shut down alot of the females if you were to judge on looks alone.

I find the dating scene a disaster to be honest. I'm so shy that I find it hard to talk to guys when I'm out...therefore I don't meet alot of guys. I don't think I'm awful looking but shyness gets in the way. I do know though that if I was attracted to a guy who asked me for my number and I gave it to him.....that I would definitely reply to the text. P.S. I don't think it matters if you text or call...I think texting for a bit at the start is a good way to get to know each other, then maybe follow it up with a call.

Sorry if I went on for a bit there but I just wanted to say to you don't give up...I haven't given up yet and still hope to meet Mr. Right...you have to stay positive! If I can be of any other help just yell.

cheers. ye, i think it's one of the reasons irish folk get so plastered when they're out... which i did myself for years... not so much anymore... just enough for a a bit of dutch courage.

i'll keep at it... something will prob come along when i least expect it.

Beth1978

It will....and hopefully it will for me too. I just wanted you to know that not all girls are the same and someday a girl will reply to your text. Sure you're a 9....how could they not!? (that was me boosting your confidence there incase you didn't catch that!):)

AARRRGH

Ignore the people giving you hassle for having a high opinion of yourself. They're just jealous and bitter.

Would you consider giving the pubs a miss for a while and trying some alternative ideas? For example, if you're interested in doing an art course or an acting course, they're always full of cute women. You might learn something too.

I'd second some of the other advice about ringing them - they probably get texts off all sorts of guys, but most won't have the confidence to ring them, so make yourself stand out from the crowd by dialling their number!

Whatever happens, keep the head up and don't let things get you down. It's only a matter of time before you meet the right person.

LegacyUser

cheers, thanks for the advice... ye maybe an acting course

will try not to get me down... was just an extra crap monday for some reason.

onwards and upwards

LegacyUser

I'm a 7 and generally go for 5s and up and Dublin ain't easy for me either !