Lost Sex Drive

LegacyUser

I'm a 30yr old female, married, and over the last 12 months my sex drive has rapidly diminished. I had a baby nearly 2 yrs ago but i don't think thats the problem as myself and my husband soon got back to normal some time after the birth.

I am on long term medication (for the forseeable future anyway) which is working perfectly for a condition I have, and I know lost sex drive can be a side effect, but i was hoping people might have some tips on how to overcome the mental block on sex, as i know if my mind was aroused then I would have no problem initiating it physically.

Just want to add that my husband is being more than patient, he's mentioned it a few times but simply saying 'you know as soon as you feel ready I'm here' type of thing, and said he did miss it and does want me but doesnt want to put any pressure on me. I feel bad about this to be honest, because the saying 'a woman needs to feel loved to have sex, and a man needs sex to feel loved' comes to mind, and I do feel very much loved, but i just have a mental block about it. I think stress and tiredness may be factors too.

LegacyUser

Its horrible to have an unexplainable low sex drive like that...I've been there. Your husband sounds great that he's so understanding and not putting any pressure on you...but it sounds like you're putting yourself under the pressure and that will definitely not help with your mental block!

If you have a day that you think maybe you could have sex that night, don't flip out or put yourself down if it doesnt happen...don't even tell your husband you're planning it to reduce any pressure or stress you might feel with it. If it happens, great...if not, try again another day.

Tiredness is an absolute killer for sex drive. Try get yourself healthy. 7-8 hours of sleep a night, eat healthy...it's amazing how that can help you.

You only need to have sex once to get over that mental block...and that first time, if your husband does something you like so you do enjoy it, it'll help...and explain that with how you're feeling, having sex that once doesn't necessarily mean you're back on track instantly...so reducing that pressure as well.

It's a tough thing to try and break through but do get rested, eat healthy and try stop with the self pressure and negative voices in your head!!

LegacyUser

Thank you for that advice, its much appreciated. I'm actually surprised more people haven't been able to help as i dont think its that uncommon..