Hurt my face

LegacyUser

ok so i'm pretty sure i have a bit of a drink problem, can't go out now without havin good few in house, get too drunk have way too many "things i did when drunk" stories. Case in point just go home from night out (actually v unusual i would b out so late, slept round a friends and had few dinks when got up cos they all still up) remember all of last night was drunk but only thing i can't explain was how iwrecked my fsce, big kind of raw hurt patch under eye..like i scraped it loads on ground... basically need to take a time out, stop drinkin just know i am way too dependant on it, can't relax, dance, enjoy a night out til well oiled with alcohol and wonderin how i gonna explain shape of my face at work tomorrow....

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Can you say you injured it playing sports?

As you said you drink to help you relax and enjoy your night out as opposed to an alcoholic who reaches for the bottle first thing in the morning. Do you have confidence or self esteem issues - what age are you and how long have you been drinking excessively to enjoy a night out?

LegacyUser

its a confidence thing, i'm grand going out to pub and not drinking but if its a nightclub.. i couldn't do it, would never get me out dancin or chattin to other people but i think i need to rein myself in a bit.. would have started drinking quite young and i suppose i am a bit too reliant on it for socialising..

i'm a bit accident prone and i get worse after a few drinks.. would have a rep with all my friends for drinkin too much and gettin messy, i'm embarrassed about it and don't like it but at the same time the drink has become a security blanket for me to be able to let loose when i got out. i wouldn't say i have major self esteem issues but would be very self conscious..

as regards my face, have a feelin whatever excuse i use its gonna be obvious it was drink related

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its a confidence thing, i'm grand going out to pub and not drinking but if its a nightclub.. i couldn't do it, would never get me out dancin or chattin to other people but i think i need to rein myself in a bit.. would have started drinking quite young and i suppose i am a bit too reliant on it for socialising..

i'm a bit accident prone and i get worse after a few drinks.. would have a rep with all my friends for drinkin too much and gettin messy, i'm embarrassed about it and don't like it but at the same time the drink has become a security blanket for me to be able to let loose when i got out. i wouldn't say i have major self esteem issues but would be very self conscious..

as regards my face, have a feelin whatever excuse i use its gonna be obvious it was drink related

And when you are in a niteclub without having drank any alcohol or enough alcohol and you are trying to have a conversation with somebody that's not going well what's running through your mind?

iHeartRyanAdams

i understand it seems to be an irish thing that going out involves being bananas! there is actually a real stigma attached to us and alcohol even in the eyes of other nationalities.
you could say u burnt your eye? or perhaps you tripped coming down the stairs.
i know you feel very uneasy about the alcohol thing but it sounds to me like you're a normal irish adult as 90% of them seem to do the same things every weekend, not that i am condoning it. i have to commend you for realising a step back from that scene is the only thing to fix these issues.
there is a new club in dublin which forbids alcohol because so many people are facing the same problems..
http://dancefree.ie/category/the-funky-seomra/

LegacyUser

yeah i had read about that place i might have to try and check it out..ach i know in way it is part and parcel of going out but i suppose i'm just lookin at last night and others and thinking now was it worth it? what was fun about that? but god knows i'll be out again next weekend and i severely doubt i'll be on the water but i'd like to start cutting back a bit anyway, these debacles are gettin a bit old and its not very becoming : )

re what i'd be thinking if in a conversation that wasn't going well - if i liked them prob that a bit of alcohol wouldn't go astray.. if i wasn't that bothered, i don't know just the same as normal, how do i move away from here...?

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OP, your opening sentence is "ok so i'm pretty sure i have a bit of a drink problem"...

you also said "had few dinks when got up cos they all still up"...

I mean if you had a drink when you got up in the morning, you can't really say you needed it for a confidence boost, or to get you up dancing.

do you think that the drink is solely a social crutch for you, or do you actually have a problem with alcohol addiction?... do you drink at home, alone, etc?

iHeartRyanAdams

i think just start limiting how much drink you buy before you go out and then don't take a whole pile of money out.. like limit yourslef to say, €60 that way you know you're not going to spend it all. if you take out more than enough and your having a good time, of course you'll keep drinking most people do! it'll save the cringing over the night's events the next day!

LegacyUser

ok so no i don't think i am a ragin alcoholic but my drinking is a problem in that i get too drunk, rely on it to enjoy night out, get messy (this not too often but still more than i would like and than any of my friends).. i would never drink unless i was going out really...would only drink alone if i am getting ready to go out.. i had two beers whe i got up this morning cos the party was still in full swing..everyone else was... i know i didn't need them, i could have just as easily drank a coffee, prob would have enjoyed that more tbh. my issue is that i do plan my nights out so have few drinks before head out...would feel uneasy going out knowing i had nothing in me cos i'd be lookin at spending a fair amount out in order to get merry, basically giving myself a head start.. thats not very good..and i would misjudge..drink too quickly and end up getting too drunk..not really what i would want either..

usually i would stay off the vodka, i know it makes no sense that a particular drink sends you mad but from experience i know it is not my friend but was drinking it last night..

i suppose part of me is like "you're grand you just need to try and slow down a bit..less of the drinkin before going out" but then there's another part of me thats like "don't underplay this, look at how many messes you've got yourself into under the influence, you can't go out without drinking loads..." dunno. i think the best way is just to pull back a bit,, try a night out without it aaggh just the thought of it..my friends love to dance but i would just be far too self conscious..

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ok so no i don't think i am a ragin alcoholic but my drinking is a problem in that i get too drunk, rely on it to enjoy night out, get messy (this not too often but still more than i would like and than any of my friends).. i would never drink unless i was going out really...would only drink alone if i am getting ready to go out.. i had two beers whe i got up this morning cos the party was still in full swing..everyone else was... i know i didn't need them, i could have just as easily drank a coffee, prob would have enjoyed that more tbh. my issue is that i do plan my nights out so have few drinks before head out...would feel uneasy going out knowing i had nothing in me cos i'd be lookin at spending a fair amount out in order to get merry, basically giving myself a head start.. thats not very good..and i would misjudge..drink too quickly and end up getting too drunk..not really what i would want either..

usually i would stay off the vodka, i know it makes no sense that a particular drink sends you mad but from experience i know it is not my friend but was drinking it last night..

i suppose part of me is like "you're grand you just need to try and slow down a bit..less of the drinkin before going out" but then there's another part of me thats like "don't underplay this, look at how many messes you've got yourself into under the influence, you can't go out without drinking loads..." dunno. i think the best way is just to pull back a bit,, try a night out without it aaggh just the thought of it..my friends love to dance but i would just be far too self conscious..

Hi again,
How did you get on today at work?

The reason I was asking what would be going through your mind in a club when you haven't drank much is because I am trying to find out what causes you to be self conscious.

If you cut down your drink or stop drinking you still have the problem that caused you to drink lots in the first place.

LegacyUser

hey

i got grand in work today, got slagged but nothin terrible

i suppose the prob that is always gonna be there is that i am inhibited when it comes to chatting to people, dancing..feel bit of a tool, not so much "everyones looking at me" as i can't let go. now the way i see it is, stop feelin under pressure to dance etc or try and cut down to a more sensible level anyway my drinking levels. i think the idea of limiting cash i have on me and leaving card at home or alternating drinks with water..could maybe work. its a bad habit i've got into and the only way i'll find out if its more serious is by trying to cut down.. what do you think?

thanks anyway for the responses, now that blues of yesterday have worn off don't feel so worried but know that it was a bit of a wake up call and that its time to calm down

LegacyUser

God that might have been me posting that post! I'm the exact same way and every weekend i say to myself right no shots no vodka just stick with the bottles, and then as soon as i hit the nightclub vodka and red bull please shot of jeger on the side and i get so so messy! and then i get the fear so bad the next day its awful and i spend the day swearing blind that this is the last time ill drink like that and then i do it again the next weekend! ive tried not bringing out the money i end up borrowing, begged friends not to lend it to me but sure when they have had a few they dont think either and give it to me!!! I'm getting pretty worried that nobody chats me up anymore because id say im far to hammered to realise i am being chatted up! let me know how you get on and then you can advise me how you did it!

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God that might have been me posting that post! I'm the exact same way and every weekend i say to myself right no shots no vodka just stick with the bottles, and then as soon as i hit the nightclub vodka and red bull please shot of jeger on the side and i get so so messy! and then i get the fear so bad the next day its awful and i spend the day swearing blind that this is the last time ill drink like that and then i do it again the next weekend! ive tried not bringing out the money i end up borrowing, begged friends not to lend it to me but sure when they have had a few they dont think either and give it to me!!! I'm getting pretty worried that nobody chats me up anymore because id say im far to hammered to realise i am being chatted up! let me know how you get on and then you can advise me how you did it!

Give it a shot OP. I was concerned you would have the same issues as above. If so you will need to try and get to the root of any other issues you may have.