Really disappointed

LegacyUser

Well...

Early Last year a few of my friends and i became single for the first time in ages, so like other 23 year olds we went mental. Crazy weekends away, crazy weekends of partying and getting girls. it was the greatest year of our lives.

But over the last few months all my friends have started to get girlfreinds, and the fun and games are over. None of them have anytime anymore, they lie and say they're doign other stuff, cousins parties etc when they're clearly just going around to their girlfriends.

My best mate has just lied to me, we had a big night planned (first time hes had time in ages) and he just text me saying hes not feeling well (out of the blue), but then he sent me a text by accident (meant for his gf) saying he'll be around in an hour and he'll bring some cans. Im just ignoring it, he knows what hes done.

Now im not the lad that couldnt get a girlfriend, i simply dont want one. Theres a couple of girls i could make a go with, but im just not intrested.

I dunno why im writing this, its their lives and whatever makes them happy, but just feel like **** that all my best mates could just drop their friends so easily. I actually feel so used. And i really know the good times, best days of my life, are truely over now.

gabbygirlgavin

Hi o/p

I get were u are coming from. This happens to girls too. My best mate changed completely when she got a man, spending every waking moment with him, not coming out with the girls, making up excuses to stay in with him. I too can get a guy but im not really in a time in my life were i need or want one... Unfortunatly these things happen but the best thing is to try to involve your friends and there g/fs with stuff u want to do. I no its annoying cuz u wanna get back into the party mood, hook up with girls and do the man thing. if u get friendly with the girls they will trust there boyfriends/your friends more to go out on the mad nights with you. Correct me if im gone off the beat n track all together. some Girls get paranoid about boys nights out. Also, some guys might like not doing the crazy thing anymore, some guys like the stability of a relationship, crazy i know... Hope I helped.

Oh and for the lying thing, he was trying to not look like a big softy cancelling plans with u to be with her. U need to tell him u got the message and you not mad but u would like him to be honest cus there is no need to lie about it, you would have understood. (my friend says she is ill to get out of coming out with us and then runs to her boyfriends house when were out and then gets back to the house before we get home from the night club)
And your best days are noy over!! stop thinking that just because your not 21 anymore that u still cant live your life. stop that right now cuz your makin me feel like my best days are over too!

ellie1

And i really know the good times, best days of my life, are truely over now.

Seriously, you say earlier it was the best year of our lives. It may have been the best year of your life so far but not nessessarily of your mates since they have all found girlfriends.

You need to chill out. These things happen, soon some will be single again or maybe some will have found future wifes. You are gonna have to role with it.

Getting drunk and pulling women and living the care free life is all very well but it doesnt last forever. However, your 23 , its more than likely there will be many more that was the best year of my life.

Maybe you will look back and when your future oh has a baby, or you travel the world, or buy a house etc... that year will become the best of your life.

Your mates are not gone forever. Just in the honeymoon stages of relationships so the gf are top of the list, for now!!!