wedding ideas:what do you think?

julu1986

i am 23 years old. with my bf are planning the wedding in the next 2 years:)i would like to ask youre oppinion:)well i am not irish i am hungarian should i make the irish tradition?I have been on a wedding already in Ireland my boyfriends sister has married .but i think irish tradition is not for me.I think is too much ,everybody wants to show just how much expensive was just i dont think so that i musst feel myself ashamed because i dont have so much money for a wedding the point is the feeling and the paper.That we are together.and will belong together My following ideas are:i would like have a civil ceremony this is because i want for myself laws in ireland is more sure like i have a religous.just make the civil ceremony i dont want long kind of wedding bride clothe because i like the audrie hepburn style the 50-60's years style.why i couldnt have it?i would like to go after the ceremony to a restaurante where i dont want big circus si i just want to have a coctail party and some cold cuisine dishes and music, no accomodation,and when is finish the guests can go to home.So what do you think about this idea?Is would be a big shame or not?Would i care about anybody else what the relatieds say?
Thanks youre answers:)

Cathmandooo

You should have the wedding that you and your boyfriend want. Don't mind everyone else. If his sister has already had a huge wedding then hopefully his parents wont mind too much having a quieter one. You'll never be able to please everyone so whatever makes you and your boyfriend happy is all that matters. Best of luck and I hope you have a lovely day when it comes.

Just to let you know, there is a wedding forum here too http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=670

c - 13

julu1986 I think you might get better information on the wedding forum so i'm going to move this there.

julu1986

thank you youre answer :)i think you have the right,i think the people want too much on the wedding forum i was reading so prices oh my god!1500 euros for a wedding ring!and diamond i am not silly to spend for this things such a price!but i will look at this prices!

mrsberries

julu1986 wrote: »

thank you youre answer :)i think you have the right,i think the people want too much on the wedding forum i was reading so prices oh my god!1500 euros for a wedding ring!and diamond i am not silly to spend for this things such a price!but i will look at this prices!

Hi Julu, I dont think everyone on this forum thinks you should spend lots of money on your wedding. In these times, people dont have the crazy money they were willing to spend a few years ago on the Irish wedding!! For example I am getting married abroad next year. My budget is a third of what it would cost to get married here. I just dont believe I should go into married life in debt, and am saving like crazy now!!

You can make it as simple as you like. Registry office doesnt cost too much for a civil service and you could book a restaurant instead of a hotel. They should be able to do you a good deal on a set menu! Regarding your dress, there are lots of options. You could try sample sales, Oxfam/ Barnardos bridal/ buy second hand or even buy online.....you really dont have to spend crazy Irish prices for the perfect dress for you!

At the end of the day, its yours and your finace's day, so do it as you please and dont feel the pressure to do it 'Irish' style

julu1986

Mrs Berries ! Thank you for youre answer well how you have read i was on a irish wedding and it was too much for me it was like a circus of course i was so happy to be there and i was happy to sleep one night in a 4 star hotel Probably i could myke my wedding in a registration office?or the civil ceremony where could i do?i dont know it still.Thanks youre answer and youre idea.:)

Seoid

Hi Julu,
I don't know how many guests you can have in the registry office but if you want to have a civil ceremony you can have it anywhere that you can convince a registry officer to go to. For example, I was at a wedding recently where they had the whole wedding in one hotel - we had the ceremony in one room, the dinner in another room and then back to the first room for dancing all night long. It was in the countryside so everyone stayed the night there and it worked really well.

But not all Irish weddings are circus affairs either! I was at a wedding a year or two ago where the couple were young and didn't have much money so they got the loan of a church hall and various people brought food for a buffet. Someone else went to the off-licence to get drinks to sell at cost to guests. Overall it was very very cheap but the atmosphere was great and everyone had a brilliant time.

Have you looked at Beaufield Mews? They look like they might be perfect for what you're looking for and have a gorgeous garden: http://www.beaufieldmews.com
Or maybe the Schoolhouse? http://www.schoolhouse.ie/ or http://www.schoolhousehotel.com/ (same place, two websites - not sure why)

Have you thought about going home to Hungary to get married? It would be a lot cheaper I'm sure and the Irish tradition is to go back to the bride's hometown (which is why I've been to weddings all over Ireland when all my friends are in Dublin)

Anyway I agree with the others that you should do what you and your boyfriend are happy and comfortable with, especially if you have to pay for it yourself.

julu1986

well hi how are u?
So i would like to myke my religous wedding in Hungary there are beautifull churches but many years later to collect the money for that too .Anyway if i had a baby after the civil ceremony could i cristening my baby?or not?i am not sure about this still as well.I want to make my wedding in Ireland because this will be irish paper what i can show off .:Dwell is the nicest thing probably irish people dióont see the reason why but i do:Dthis would be the best for me.Thanks youre ideas;)

Ashlynn

Hi Julu congrats first of all & the best advice I can give you is shop around for everything, you wouldn't believe the difference in price for the same thing eg. my dress one shop was €400 dearer than the next exact same dress :eek:. There is a thread just started here on bargains ill post it up for you give you an idea of whats out there, best of luck with the planning http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/viewtopic.php?t=200069

ecaf

Hi Julu, Congratulations firstly! And I agree with everyone here to have a celebration of your wedding in whatever style you and your partner would like.

In relation to your questions on civil ceremonies, you should be able to find more information here http://www.citizensinformation.ie/categories/birth-family-relationships/getting-married/civil_marriage_ceremony, I don't know a lot about them but the website should help you get started.
As far as I know you should be able to get your child baptised even after a civil ceremony, I'm not sure what religion you might be, but on the Roman Catholic website http://www.catholicireland.net/pages/index.php?nd=85 there is a good bit of information. Or for your own religion just do a search for your religion and baptism it should be able to give you more detail.

Best of luck to you both I hope you have a lovely celebration whatever you choose to do.

julu1986

THANKS the advices about the citizeninformation .ie. i used to go there to read very much things is right i can not understand everyhting clearly i have to learn more english:P but thenaks the ideas i hope i will can christening my Baby

Geranium

This site; http://offbeatbride.com/ has lots of cheap and fun ideas. And you'll be happy to see that not all weddings follow the traditional set up!

Unwilling

Really good venue ideas.. do you know anywhere almost exactly the same but dublin north????!!!!!!