Help, pregnant

LegacyUser

Hi ,
Just looking for advise im lost,
I found out yesterday i was pregnant and today the person iv been seeing told me he doesn have time to see me anymore(bs excuse i knw)...
Now i dont know what to do??
How can i tell him im pregnant...i fell like an absolute pleb i realy do,hes made me feel like an egit now i dont even know how to bring up the conversation because im not going to see him....
Help any advise......

Very stressed Woman......

star-pants

Whether he's going to be in your life or not, you need to tell him if you're having this baby.

Ring him and tell him you need to have a chat about something very important. And just be honest when you see him. You don't know his reaction until you do.

Lollipops23

whatever happens he has a right to know you're carrying his child. don't worry, but do take maybe a day or two to yourself to clear your head.

PS congratulations!!!

metrovelvet

Ok.deep breaths. Theres no way to tell him except to tell him.dont take the initial reaction seriously, its the shock talking.

Tbh i wish id never said anything about my pregnancy,it led to a whole lot of grief. If you get one sniff of grief walk out,hang up the phone,and leave him to it.

LegacyUser

Im sooooo nervous i swear to god i just wana crawl under a rock and hope itl go away..
Obviously i know it wont just how i feel,
I need to get my head around it and be thinking straight before tell him because im a soppy egit il cry my eyes out telling him!!
My best ffriend is coming over to my house tonight after work i need a shoulder to cry on and help me get my head around this.....
Dont get me wrong a baby is a blessing and im delighted its just the road i have ahead of me before he/she is borm thats freaking me out and scaring me!!

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LegacyUser

Yeah no i am definatly keeping the baby,its a blessing and no matter how it happens its a blessing and i could never get rid of a blessing....

Yeah your right when you say he doesnt seem like the type to stick byme,hes an immature child and i certainly dont need 2 kids,
If anything i realy hope this situation makes me a lot stronger,
YES IM NERVOUS,UPSET,ANXIOUS,SCARED but im just trying to focus on all the positve things that can come from this,

I think it s the only thing that will get me through.
Dreading telling my family aswell im 24 but not being in a stable relationship and being pregnant is not going to go down well,i think i should tell him before my family though....

So many things going around in my head./.......

Lollipops23

Unregistered wrote: »

My best ffriend is coming over to my house tonight after work i need a shoulder to cry on and help me get my head around this.....
Dont get me wrong a baby is a blessing and im delighted its just the road i have ahead of me before he/she is borm thats freaking me out and scaring me!!

that's great that you've someone to talk to, as i said by all means take a breath and try and get your head around it,and figure out your next few steps.

But the longer you leave it the harder it will be so maybe try and meet him this weekend?as someone else said, don't be put off if he flips out at first. if he starts that, simplyget up and leave, telling him to call you when he's more calm.Seriously,i've heard so many stories of guys completely freaking when the news is broken,only to be totally the opposite in a matter of days!

tatabubbly

Congrats on the baby!

I'm sure at 24 your family will be delighted with you... The man needs to know, it's half of him too..

Go to your GP, get checked out and start taking folic acid, and all them other pre-natal vitamins that are out there.
You need to go with how you feel here, it's your body and getting stressed out won't help you right. I'd tell him, then go tell your family! If it's what you want then i'd say to relax, light a candle and hope for the best. Be optimistic, in 9 months you'll have a lovely little baby.

LegacyUser

What are you going to do then if he doesn't want to be a father...?

He may not see this "blessing" that you see, be prepared to get a good or bad response

Noffles

So he doesn't have time to see you anymore... in other words is no longer interested and you're going to tell him your preggers... oh dear..... be prepared... I highly doubt he's going to be too impressed.. I certainly wouldn't be!

Noelleieos

If there is any problem with the family just remind them that the baby is a new member of the family, whether they like it or not the baby is here to stay and you're going to love it and care for it and so should they. Sometimes people don't think of the big picture. As for the father, when you are ready to tell him just sit him down and say it. It will be a shock and he might not want to know about it at first but after a while he will hopefully come to terms with it. If he doesn't though that's his problem, you'll have your friends and family by your side, you will be okay. Be warned though, some men are just not cut out to be fathers, although I do know many fathers who are very proud parents (some who were not to happy at the beginning) but there are some who just don't want to know (including my own) I hope the father of your child will be mature enough to stand by you. Good luck with everything. And congratulations:D

Prof.Badass

Unregistered wrote: »

Yeah your right when you say he doesnt seem like the type to stick byme,hes an immature child and i certainly dont need 2 kids,

People can change, especially at such a big turning point in their lives. If he wants to play an active part in raising the child you shouldn't deny him that.

lolli

Hi op,

I'm 24 too and just found out that i'm pregnant.
I think that its a huge shock for anyone to hear but you need to sit down with him and talk about what you both want. I'm hoping that he will stand by you and the baby.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Tell him asap

Seeing as he dumped you he may not believe you. Tell him you haven't been with anyone else(if that is true) and you will consent to a DNA test as soon as its born.

If he's immmature that talk might get him on board faster. By on board I mean accepting its his and that he has responsibility for your child.

Be prepared for him wanting an abortion. By that I mean be prepared for him asking you to do it, I'm not suggesting for a second you should abort because he wants you to