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Abused when I was young

  • 11-05-2009 1:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I am a guy in my early 20's! When i was aged 11 and it lasted until I was 14! When it happend thought it was just part of growning up! Now I know what he did to me and it makes me sick! He's ruined my life! He is related to me and I see him at Christmas and family events! I had a girlfriend but I broke up with her because when ever she touched me I uset have flass backs of what he did to me! I am at a point now that I don't know what to do! I wish I was dead because it will make it all go away! What should I do?


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  • #2
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Your first step is to go get yourself professional help.
    Do yourself a big favour and do this asap.
    This is a terrible thing to have to deal with and until you learn how to, life will be difficult for you.

    Secondly, as part of your recovery, do you wish to report him?


  • #3
    cojomo2
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    Unregistered wrote: »
    I am a guy in my early 20's! When i was aged 11 and it lasted until I was 14! When it happend thought it was just part of growning up! Now I know what he did to me and it makes me sick! He's ruined my life! He is related to me and I see him at Christmas and family events! I had a girlfriend but I broke up with her because when ever she touched me I uset have flass backs of what he did to me! I am at a point now that I don't know what to do! I wish I was dead because it will make it all go away! What should I do?

    2 things come to mind.

    1. get some counseling-i used to go out with a girl in a similar situation to you and it does work..it will help you confront it and put it behind you.

    2. Expose the scum who did this to you. I know its difficult/awkward but this guy could be praying on someone else now.Don't let him get away with this. And don't feel guilty about wrecking his family-they should know, he has made your life hell


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    You poor thing.

    To recover from this you need to address it and a trained professional will be instrumental in doing this.

    You should contact www.oneinfour.com and make an appointment.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I think you might need to turn to someone for help to deal with this. A professional. They will help you understand the whole thing and help you move on so you are able to have relationships in the future and build a life with someone. It would be a terrible shame if you were not able to do so because of the abuse you experienced at such a young age.

    They may also help you in an approach to exposing the man who did this to you, if that becomes a wish of yours. I can appreciate the horror of having to do this, but as cojomo2 states, this relative of yours may be abusing other young children too? Or may have abused other children in the past? Living his life freely he is a very dangerous man.

    Have you ever thought that being open about this awful experience may enable you to deal with it in order for you to put it behind you and move on. You sound really distressed and who wouldn't be. I know it's a lame saying but a problem shared is a problem halved - you came on this board after all to seek advice, why not make a call to see about getting some professional help? Don't try and deal with this on your own x x


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