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wrong decision?

  • 10-05-2009 10:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi, im a 23 year old girl and was just wondering if anybody has had the same experience..... I went out with one of my really good friends (guy) for nearly a year, but then things just didnt feel right so i broke it off. he then told me he loved me but i just didnt feel the same at the time so i didnt want to be keeping him hanging on when i knew i didnt feel the same. That was over a year ago, cant help but wonder if i've done the right thing. we've been in contact since then but obviously its been awkward. i havent been with anyone seriously since then, but he has... at times i think maybe i did love him but i just dont know because ive never had such a serious relationship. i know he said that he loved me but now i think how can this be true? i was going to talk to him recently about it but he just jumped right in telling me how hes going out with someone new now so i thought it best to just say nothing. felt like my life was an episode of One Tree Hill at that moment, cue the sad music and my heart just sank! it just feels like that was as good as things were going to get for me, but then again maybe thats just nostalgia. any advice would be appreciated its been getting me down quite a bit.


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  • #2
    star-pants
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    If it didn't feel right at the time, it didn't feel right.
    You say you've not found someone else yet, and he has. So of course there's going to be pangs of envy, and you're going to wonder 'what if he and I were still together' and as you say nostalgia makes things in the past seem much rosier than perhaps it really was.

    He's with someone new now anyway, but I think that you're just feeling down about things now, and wishing you had him back (not for him, but for a bf person). Then again, that's just my opinion. Based on you saying that you don't know that you really like him that way. You say you didn't feel the same, so just be patient and you'll find someone that you do feel that way for.


  • #3
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    star-pants wrote: »
    If it didn't feel right at the time, it didn't feel right.
    You say you've not found someone else yet, and he has. So of course there's going to be pangs of envy, and you're going to wonder 'what if he and I were still together' and as you say nostalgia makes things in the past seem much rosier than perhaps it really was.

    He's with someone new now anyway, but I think that you're just feeling down about things now, and wishing you had him back (not for him, but for a bf person). Then again, that's just my opinion. Based on you saying that you don't know that you really like him that way. You say you didn't feel the same, so just be patient and you'll find someone that you do feel that way for.

    +1
    Also - a year later you are probably remembering all the good things and the points that convinved you before over why you should break up are forgotten about.
    Don't second guess yourself now, this is just your mind playing with you.
    If it was meant to be it would but after a year it is time to put those remaining issues in your remembrance box and pack it away.


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