Damn, whay is it so hard!?

LegacyUser

Well and here goes another post bout break up!

good thing bout Boards.ie is that i read few post sort of same story than me...

Im 35 hes 24, together 7 months, crazy in love....but he broke up 2 months ago, to say the obvious...he loves me madly BUT im too ahead of him, things i have done he hasnt.etc..
long story short, "im perfect for him " , he doesnt want to be with anyone else (guess for now) and if it wasnt for the gap this, us, would be IT for him....he just couldnt see himself geting married in few years.
I do understand, he's obviously more mature than me on that, im a day by day type of person, hes a future looking type of guy. I know it was an issue for him but didnt think we would break up over it. If he really truly love me than he wouldnt have broken up, no?!
isnt it how it works!

SO, why is it so hard to move on...i accept it, nothing i can do to change that but how can you break up with someone you love so much!!!??
Im trying hard not to do the contact think but we get in touch once in a while and he always end up saying how pissed off he is i came into his life at this time.
Its hard for me to hear that, how can a guy say he loves you so much and how perfect you are for him but still break up.. i never been in this situation, most people break up for too much fights, different opinions or personality or cheating...we never had that, we had it great!! too great maybe!

any guys out there who in the past broke up with girls they still loved could give me any insight on this!!?

Anyway, i hate this situation damn it! im thinking the bad way, if we're not in touch for a while maybe he will think differently..but i already know it just doesnt happen often, woman are more indecisive, they change mind after break ups, guys usually are more certain, they made a decision and stick with it cos they take time to think it over first.

Well thank you for reading..

ellie1

Not a guy but...

I think you can love somebody and break up with them. I think its because you dont love them enough to stay and work it out. So your man might love you in many ways but not enough to stay and work it out with you

starchild

hi op i think people can break up while still loving each other but it is rare that two people will break up while being totally in love with each other.

he says he is pissed off you came into his life at this time, i understand that he is 24 and has things he wishes to do, what i dont understand is why he cant do them with you. Obviously travelling can be one of them, im sure it can be worked around.

I believe he thinks he loves you but do you really believe him. If anything will bring him back to you i think it will be no contact, at the moment you are still there providing a sort of security in that he knows you want and would have him back. Live for yourself for a little while, move on in your mind and stop listening to his excuses unless he says the words you want to hear namely that he realises he wants to be with you.

If this doesnt happen then it just isnt meant to be at this point, for what its worth i dont think he is intentionally leading you on but the best thing you can do is live your life to the max right now

LegacyUser

starchild you are spot on!!

Never i have read a post where i was like, "waow.. you're so right!!"

Thank you, i guess i was trying to figure out "why not do those things" while with me too but couldnt come up with it, you totally nailed it!
Love is there, but not enough obviously.
You just gave me the courage to do the no contact, so thank you!

Aside from the sunshine you just made my day!!!

have a nice one yourself.