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Its been four years...

  • 09-05-2009 4:41pm
    #1
    bella*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8 ✭


    I've been with my partner for four years now. We have talked about marriage, kids etc but not seriously. The topic of getting engaged came up last year but at 21 i said i was too young. My partner is in his thirties and clearly wants to settle down. I seem to have lost contact with most of my close friends and my life really does seem to revolve round him. Should i let time keep passing with him before finally deciding whether he is the one or not? Or should i take a step back and try to enjoy more time with my friends?


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  • #2
    bluecell99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 259 ✭✭bluecell99


    It just depends what your priority is.Clearly for him,becuse he is a good few years older,its consolidating the relationship,formalising it and going from there.

    With you ,at only 21,you have some - very understandable - doubts.You mention having lost contact with friends.Not good - at any age.

    Yes maybe its time to step back a bit as the old saying goes "When in doubt ,do nowt".

    But do discuss with your OH and he should understand your concerns.Everything is about compromise and maybe by your 25 th.birthday then certainly,if things remain good for ye,then it might be a better time to formalise things.


  • #3
    kittenkiller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,433 ✭✭✭kittenkiller


    Stay in touch with your friends.
    Make time regularly to meet with them.

    If your stomach didn't flip when your bf wanted to get engaged (even though you said no), then things mightn't be heading the way either or you would like over the next few years.
    But only time will tell.

    It's a blessing to have good friends and to lose them and end up alone would be awful.

    Best of luck.


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